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Why the “Feminists” Don’t Speak for Me: The Diary of a Mom Supremacist

(H/T Lori_Z )

The “feminists” don’t speak for me:

Because I believe that women are miracle workers through our extraordinary capacity to nurture life within and to bring forth children. To me, the primacy of unrestricted abortion in the “feminist” agenda reveals an insidious movement to deny women our full potential.

Because I interpret chivalrous gestures as an affirmation of female ascendency. It is odd that in a culture where the rich and powerful rely on personal security details, “feminists” perceive the male instinct to protect women as a sign of female weakness.

Because I am amazed at the degree to which motherhood has honed my management skills, especially in the areas of communication, accountability, multi-tasking, and prioritization. Research suggests there is a physiological basis for this change.

Because I contend that in free societies with rule of law, religion is not a common means for men to subjugate women. I believe that men of faith humbly recognize their weaknesses, and by the grace of God, endeavor to triumph over behaviors that are destructive to women and families.

Because I can have it all, just not all at the same time. Years ago, I had a fulfilling non-domestic career. Now I am reveling in my adventures as a stay-at-home mom. When my husband retires and my children are in school, I’ll rejoin the workforce. Provided that Obama and the Democrats in Congress do not destroy our healthcare system, I have decades ahead of me to make my mark on the outside world.

Because I am willing to admit that my spouse outranks me. In our house, my husband is the commanding officer and I am the executive officer. He sets the overall course for the family (with my input); I make the day-to-day decisions (with his input). I am 100 percent certain that if I asked him to reverse roles, he would.

Because I maintain that when a “feminist” uses the v-word outside its medical context, she curtails violence against women as effectively as a misogynist who uses the c-word.

Because I believe that parents who shelter their adolescent daughters from sexual experimentation and drug and alcohol use, liberate them to become healthy, confident women.

Because I think that fertility awareness is the most pro-woman form of family planning. It is safe and reliable, works in achieving and avoiding pregnancy, increases marital intimacy, and provides additional health benefits. If you are tempted to crack a joke, please consider that Planned Parenthood’s vested interest in purveying pills, condoms and abortions makes natural family planning an ideal target for Alinsky-style ridicule.

Because I see the Conservative movement within the Republican Party as the natural home for true feminists. No two women are alike. No national organization can reasonably claim to speak for us all. Why not affiliate with the party that promotes equality based on unalienable rights rather than the party that thrives on conflict over superficial differences?

COMMENTS

  • JadedByPolitics
    • Uma Richie

      and thanks for the Reco. You’re a great mentor!

  • Rod_Patrick
    • Uma Richie

      nt.

  • http://andrightlyso.com/ civil_truth

    Highly recommended!

    • Uma Richie

      -nt

  • mom2oneson
    • Uma Richie

      And thanks for starting my brain down this line of thought a few months ago.

  • penguin2

    “parents who shelter their adolescent daughters from sexual experimentation and drug and alcohol use, liberate them to become healthy, confident women.” I think that is a critical point.

    The results of the sexual revolution only increased the pressure on young women. Previously they had the support of society to hold onto their values, grow gradually and hold themselves with greater self-esteem. Now they are pressured, and surrounded by a society that almost ridicules them for having restraint and modesty, old-fashioned word but I couldn’t think of another.

    All one has to do is look at the literature; eating disorders, self-esteem issues, teen-age pregnancies, and drug and alcohol addiction. When society took away the constraints and limits that traditional and conservative values entail for young people ( and I’ll include boys as well), it only added to developmental issues that are typical to the age. Modern day sociologists can say what they want, but young people, as well as children and even adults need and I believe want limits.

    Didn’t mean to get long winded, but I had wanted to think on your diary. At first glance, I know some would not quite understand it /accept it, especially looking at it from the prism of today’s society.
    It is hard to explain to them, but we understand it.

    • Uma Richie

      One good predictor of avoidance of risky behavior is “connectedness.” Adolescents with parents and teachers who give a hoot about them fare better than adolescents without. You and I know that this is common sense, but it is nice to see the concept get a foothold in professional discussion.

      Thank you for the reco.

      • TxTess

        I agree 100% with the diary and especially the statement penquin pointed out, but some of us who were protected still did absolutely stupid stuff as teens(speaking from expirience) What saved me while I was young and dumb was my family. Along with my parent’s love, I had several amazing Great Aunts and their husbands who were born at the turn of the 20th century. These women were educators, nurses, ranchers, and involved in politics before it was cool. Their husbands stood by there side as partners even as they were the heads of the house. Their lives and marriages were awesome to watch.
        Before that my paternal great grand father made sure all 8 of his children had a love for books and education making sure that all of them even the 4 girls went to college at least 2 years. He didn’t even finish 8th grade. Family support is so important.

        • Uma Richie

          Your family history reminds me of what makes America great. My parents and their parents also focused on education. I owe much of my success to their support.

          Thanks for the reco!

  • Right_Again

    I believe what you believe.

    A feminist movement comprised of like-minded women would be powerful beyond comprehension. It would reshape our country and our world for the better.

    • Uma Richie

      The day after W’s reelection, the Today show hosted some “feminist” spokespeople. NBC had engaged them on the premise that Kerry was going to win, and wanted to spew the women-won’t-vote-for-you-Neanderthal-Republicans meme. So when Matt Lauer asked, “What happened?” all they could do was admit that women voted for Pres. Bush.

      I’d say we’ve been around the whole time and this is another sleeping giant issue. Lori’s diary prompted me to write my own version of why the main “feminist” groups don’t speak for me. Hopefully others will find their voices soon.

      Thank you for the reco.

  • janis

    Your comment on how motherhood has really enhanced your managerial abilities really struck a chord. I only had one child to raise, but now have two grandchildren that I often take care of for several days a week. One busy day this week, I found myself serving two different supper menus (husband diabetic, can’t eat what the grandkids want), doling out antibiotics to one child, encouraging the other one to tell us what happened at her first day of school, making a note to self to call ballet teacher about the start of lessons this month, and then concluding with trying to help my dad over the phone with computer issues. That was just a half hour in my day.

    It’s one of the details that made me look at women such as Sarah Palin and Liz Cheney with such respect. Five kids apiece? I defy any feminazi to do that job for a month and not come away with a whole different respect for women who do it year in and year out out of love. Managing a major corporation or dealing with a bunch of politicians would be a breeze after dealing with 5 kids! You’ve already mastered the subject of clashing egos, you can spot a lie from 50 paces, and you have long ago learned to keep your objective in focus while dealing with all the multiple problems that crop up while you are trying to achieve your goals.

    And that doesn’t even begin to address how you deal with so many people competing for a finite number of resources……. You being the primary resource. :-)

    • Uma Richie

      It makes me wonder, “What did I do with all my time before I had children?” I just wish I knew then what I know now.

      Your grandchildren are lucky to have you in their lives. I can’t find the study online, but I have read that grandparents are a child’s second most important set of relatives, even more important than siblings; and that children who are close to their grandparents do better in school.

      I appreciate the reco!

      • janis

        The other question I had, besides the one you asked yourself, “What did I do with my time……” was ” What did I do with my heart before I had children?” It’s not that you never loved anyone before, but the love you have for your child(ren) is nothing like any other love. And grandchildren? Please, don’t even get me started! :-)

        While they may be lucky to have us in their lives, they are such a blessing in ours! The older you get, the more those baby and toddler years mean to you. I used to wonder why old folks always lit up at the sight of a baby, and now I know: It’s the innocence of the little creatures. My 2 year old grandson loves to ride his little push car into my kitchen and announce, “Hi, honey, I home!” He also thinks it’s great good fun to call me “Baby” with all the aplomb of a 30 year old ladykiller.

        As to wishing you knew then what you know now, what would have done with that knowledge? It’s only when you need it that you “know” it. The good part is that having developed it, it’s available forever now. Enjoy!

        • Uma Richie

          I’m relieved to hear that when my children grow up, it won’t be the end of the fun times.

  • eburke

    You, Mrs. Richie, are more of a true, emancipated, feminist woman, confident and content in her own skin, than Hillary, SanFranNan, Gloria Steinham, or Andrea Dworkin could ever dream of being….combined.

    Outstanding diary!!

    Oh, and btw….Mr. Richie is one lucky guy (but I’m sure you remind him of that at least once in a while :-)

  • Uma Richie

    but I tend to think that I’m the lucky one in my marriage.