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A Marine Dad’s Pride – and Reflections on Service


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I attended my son David’s graduation from Marine boot camp at MCRD Parris Island on Friday.  My Marine served as Squad Leader, achieved expert level in marksmanship, and marched in the front rank of his platoon, despite enduring a serious sprain on his previously-broken ankle on day 2 of training and bronchial pneumonia that landed him in off-base hospital for 52 hours.  He weighed in at 120 lbs. at graduation, down 27 lbs. from arrival.  For the first time in my life I understand the true meaning of the expression “bursting with pride.”

During my two days on the base, I got to see the whole range of “boots,” from the shell-shocked kids reeling from the disorientation of three days without sleep and with the constant barking of DIs, to the earnest drilling of first-phase recruits (they looked pretty tight to me, but totally raw to my son), to the lock-step precision of the graduates–an awesome and inspiring sight that every American should have the opportunity to witness.  I also saw some pint-sized school-age cadets in dark cammies, playing at being Marines but learning real lessons for the future, whether they ultimately become jarheads or not.

It is gratifying that all the services have achieved their enlistment quotas and are able to pick and choose the best recruits rather than lowering their standards (note: the Marine Corps has not had this problem in many years). Yet what does it say that we are turning away capable young men and women who want to serve their nation?  Something about this situation simply does not compute.

What I saw last week was a group of 523 young Americans pushed beyond their level of endurance, achieving things they would have thought were impossible, submerging their individual desires, wishes, and prejudices to weld together a group; eliminating the words “I” and “me” from their vocabularies, and sacrificing themselves for a greater good–viz., you and me and the country we are privileged to be citizens of.

It was immensely gratifying to travel home on Friday night and see the gratitude, affection and respect that our young men in uniform receive from nearly everyone they meet.  It certainly lifted up my son. At the same time, it evoked shameful memories of the way soldiers were treated by civilians during the era of Vietnam–and most of those were simply honoring their legal obligations to obey the selective service law, not volunteers.

Over the last three months, David and his fellow recruits learned lessons that most people never attain in a lifetime.  They are lessons that my father, my uncles, my father-in-law, and his brothers had an opportunity to learn during World War II.  There is something profoundly valuable about national service–military service in particular, but not necessarily that alone.  Not everyone is cut out for fighting; as the Bible says (Deuteronomy 20:8), “Is there any man who is fearful and fainthearted? Let him go back to his house, lest he make the heart of his fellows melt like his own.”  But God knows the nation has needs besides military service that could benefit from the labor of young men and women.

I have taken withering fire on this site several times in the past for advocating a return to the draft.  But seeing how much is gained in discipline, capacity for hard work, and patriotism from military service–seeing how much my son and his buddies have grown–has made my conviction stronger than ever.  Leaving aside entirely the motive of lack of courage (a cheap shot–who can see into another man’s heart?), It seems to me that the arguments against universal national service are at base selfish. With the privileges of citizenship must come responsibilities. Our people’s devotion to liberty has been a double-edged sword from the start: the “sunshine patriot” has a lineage as old as independence.  Our freedom was won by a dedicated minority; a callous Continental Congress, fearing the wrath of their constituents, routinely refused to levy taxes adequate to pay the Army or even keep them in shoes. They were willing enough, however, to take every advantage of the liberty their neighbors–the dreaded “standing army”–had purchased for them.

We are privileged to live in a democracy, and to enjoy freedoms most people in the world can only dream of. To a large degree, we owe those freedoms to young men and women like my son.  Why should the burdens of liberty enjoyed by so many be shouldered by so few?

COMMENTS

  • qixlqatl

    no one will, and I can’t think of anyone I’d rather have shouldering those burdens than the USMC (no disrespect to the other branches of the US military, I was squid myself)

  • proudmarinemom

    to your family! There is nothing in the world like that last day at Parris Island, seeing all the recruits in formation, trying to recognize your own son out of several hundred who look exactly like him, blinking back the tears when they chant the words to the Marines’ Hymn while standing at attention and that first, long-awaited hug from the grown man who was a boy when you dropped him off at the recruiting station a few months earlier.

    We Marine Parents are the lucky “few” who are allowed a vicarious taste of the pride that comes from real sacrifice for the sake of others. Through no accomplishment of our own, we get to feel that we are part of America’s fight for freedom. We are so privileged to be part of the lives of those who serve.

    Godspeed to your son and Semper Fi!

    • bantamwait

      What a privilege we have been granted!

  • http://908StraightSt.wordpress.com/ mbecker908

    Congratulations to your son and his fellow Marines.

    Find a Marine Corps family group and get involved.

    • securitymom

      I watched my Marine son graduate from Boot Camp in 1999. I remember the feeling of awe of the young Maine graduates, and how much they appeared to change in a few short months.

      I also remember 9/11 and how my son received with pride his orders of stop loss in preparation for Iraqi Freedom. As a parent, you know your child has made the decisions…but believe me it doesn’t help knowing your child might be going into the heart of danger. I spent countless nights sleeping in front of the TV in hopes of any news.

      My son has been been out of the Marines since late 2005, but each night I thank God for his safe return. I also think of the parents (spouses/children) who are now living with the same worry that we did. My Son’s Grandmother was just as worried as we lost my Uncle in WWII. He is in the National Registry as a Double Bronze Star Recipient.

      Are there hero’s amongst us? Yes, the families and the Marine/Sailor/Soldier/Air Force/National Guard. All serve at some level.

      Semper Fi New Marine Dad…I too am so proud of your son…

      • bantamwait

        It’s a blessing that he made it home safely. Semper Fi!

  • http://908StraightSt.wordpress.com/ mbecker908

    that pretty much encapsulates the whole Marine Corps experience.

    We were sitting in the stands as the recruit company marched onto the parade deck for the graduation ceremony which ends with them receiving their Eagle Globe and Anchor from their DIs and being formally called “Marine” for the first time.

    It was a glorious June day in San Diego and the stands were packed. In addition to the graduation, the General who commanded MCRD San Diego had been promoted and was leaving MCRD, Joshua’s class would be his last and he spoke to the soon-to-be-Marines from his heart about what his career in the Corps meant to him and to his family. He spoke about what a special place being the Commandant of MCRD had in his heart, having the honor to “Make Marines”. Pretty much everybody was in tears when he finished.

    At the end of the General’s heartfelt words, the platoons were presented and the Drill Instructors moved through the ranks and presented the Eagle Globe and Anchor to each new Marine. By then “tears” isn’t the appropriate word, “weeping” is more like it. Families were talking to people they didn’t know, hugging, crying on shoulders and trying not to simply explode with pride.

    I was bawling my eyes out as the the DIs came up to Josh. The woman in front of me, who was probably out-crying me, turned and said “Isn’t this the most wonderful thing you’ve ever seen!” and asked me which Marine was mine. I pointed out Josh, she hugged me and reach over and grabbed my wife in a big bear hug and we all stood there crying for joy. “He’s so handsome!” she said to us.

    My wife asked her which Marine was hers so we share her joy as she was sharing ours. “Oh, I’m not related to anybody. I’m a teacher from Dallas and the Marines brought a group of us here so we could learn how the Marine Corps teaches young men. It’s been the most exciting and wonderful week of my life.”

    There are lots of unforgettable moments in my life, this one is up near the top.

    • securitymom

      Our younger generation at it’s finest.

    • bantamwait

      Before last week, I would’ve understood it.

      • bantamwait

        Damn voice recognition software!