No secret, I'm in the US Army and normally I leave the military related posts to the Wordpress blog. But this is not just about the military.
The failure of Harry Reid to get the Defense budget for 2011 past a procedural blockade succeed in holding the firewall against a massive push at social engineering by proxy. So for the rest of this blog, lets assume DADT was repealed on its own and homosexuals are allowed to serve openly with no repercussions:
Tom and Harry are having a lunch at the Post Exchange on Ft. Swampy holding hands as any other "normal" couple. Next to the couple is a young mother and her two children, ages 5 and 7, who see the two men kiss like mommy and daddy... get used to it.
Tom lives in the barracks while Harry is a civilian living off post. However, Tom invites Harry over for a night of movies and drinks and results in a domestic dispute. The responding barracks or staff duty NCO must intervene and submit a serious incident report to his command which shows that the couple got into an altercation... get used to it.
During one of the spats over California's gay marriage law, they authorize it, and Tom and Harry get married in California. Possessing a valid marriage license Tom returns to Ft. Swampy and wants to enroll Harry into the Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System to ensure that TRICARE, the military's HMO, will give his new dependent government/taxpayer paid health care services and subsidized dental treatments. But the Defense of Marriage Act restricts the federal definition of marriage to a man and woman. However, Tom and Harry are legally married by the State of California... what to do what to do.
Ultimately many other troops nor myself care about DADT. We care so little about it that it could stay in effect and have ZERO impact on the military's effectiveness to operate. Removing it and do so without properly assessing it, you will harm the United States Armed Forces and have no chance to repair. Logistically speaking repealing DADT will likely require new barracks built or at least strict adherence to ensure servicemembers are not attacking one another for rooming with a gay guy. Yes security for individual troops will have to be considered because someone's not going to like rooming with a homosexual. If we force the issue and mix the sexual preferences then we might as well mix the genders. Why? Because sexual attraction is why we segregate women and men in barracks and bathrooms, you won't find many unisex bathrooms in the military (hint: its usually the woodline).
I repeat, DADT doesn't matter to many of us. But it will matter to you as a citizen if it is repealed improperly. We will face many socially awkward situations and be force to consider events that will challenge faith and patience for many. I'm not scared of some homosexual staring at me in a shower. I don't fear being gang raped by a gaggle of gays. I do fear my Army being ripped apart because the social fabric that we're made of, which is what America is made of, will be dismantled without any care by those who are forcing this rather insignificant issue.