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We sure do live in interesting times!

OK, I’m over it. For the first fifteen minutes today after I learned that Sarah Palin’s daughter was pregnant at age 17, I have to admit that I was — to employ the biggest euphemism I’ve used in a long time — perplexed.

Perplexed and befuddled. Perplexed, befuddled, and gobsmacked. Gobsmacked, perplexed, befuddled and crestfallen. Crestfallen, gobsmacked, perplexed, befuddled and spazzed out. Even a little angry. How could McCain and Palin have done this to us? It sure seemed like one of those surprises you get when you invite your buddy to move in for a month because he’s between apartments and he winds up bringing along — well, you get the idea. Not ipso facto a dealbreaker, just not exactly what you thought you bargained for.

Then I thought about it for nearabouts an hour and I realized I had nothing, really to be upset about, and even less to make an issue of personally; that it was even less of my concern than I had any right to arrogate to myself. It’s a fact of life that at 17 years old, a lot of teenagers have had sex, although most parents try their best to get them to postpone it, or at least use their brains as well as their genitals. I’m no exception, although I didn’t get pregnant, and neither did she. So it would have been awfully hypocritical of me to stay very perplexed (or anything else) on that basis.

So then, what else could I be upset about? That the pregnancy would bring up the issue of premarital sex during the Republican National Convention? That’s not an entirely unproductive or pointless discussion for us to have, when you think about it. And neither is the discussion about what to do if one of the kids — now about to grow up awfully fast — gets pregnant. And then I realized that it’s quite possible to be 17 years old and have a family that’s supportive enough, and a good enough head on your (two) shoulders, to make it work. Particularly if people don’t treat you and your husband-to-be as though you’ve somehow endangered the future of the Republic, which they really didn’t — I’m sure they’ll be relieved to know. America will survive. ;) .

I was reminded of one of my favorite poems, written by John Barth at the beginning of The Tidewater Tales: a charge from a wife to her husband, a challenge. You see, he’s a storyteller, a novelist actually, and she sets him a task: to tell her the greatest story she’s ever heard.

Tell me a story of women and men
Like us: like us in love for ten
Years, lovers for seven, spouses
Two, or two point five. ‘Their House’s Increase’
Is the tale I wish you’d tell.

Why did that perfectly happy pair,
Like us, decide so late to bear
A child? Why toil so to conceive
One (or more), when they both believe
The world’s aboard a handbasket bound for Hell?
Well?

Sentimentality, was it? A yen
Like ours to be one person, blend
Their flesh forever, so to speak –
Although the world could end next week
And that dear incarnation be H-bomb-fried?

Maybe they thought that by joining their
(Like our) so different genes – her
Blue-blooded, his blue-collared — they’d make
A blue-eyed Wunderkind who’d take
The end of civilization in his/her stride?
What pride!

Or maybe they weren’t thinking at all,
But (unlike us) obeyed the call
Of blind instinct and half-blind custom:
“Reproduce your kind, and trust them
To fortune’s winds and tides, life’s warmth and frost?

Perhaps they considered all the above
(Like us, exactly) — instinct, love,
The world’s decline from bad to worse
In more respects than the reverse –
And decided to pay, but not to count, the cost,
Fingers crossed.

Different, to be sure, than being 17 and pregnant — but not necessarily less of an adventure, or one guaranteed to go smoothly (which, like all things in real life and the best fiction, it doesn’t, entirely.)

Finally I realized that the best thing I could do is wish the young couple and their unborn baby luck, and hope that they get a lot of support and good advice, and understand that they can make it work if they’re willing to work to make it, and it looks like they are. May God bless them and keep them and their child.

Now let’s get back to also talking about what the Republicans can do for America.

COMMENTS

  • Rottimer

    There is nothing wrong with the Bristol Palin having that baby, and everything right with it. The only legitimate argument that could be brought up regarding the incident is that of birth control.

  • kowalski

    After thinking about it for a few minutes, I realized that first of all I’d probably been shanghaied by the Obama campaign through Daily Kos. I want to see how that pans out over the next couple of days, that’s for sure. I think they did no small amount of well-poisoning here, but it took a few minutes to realize it.

    Of course, my main concern was that because I supported Sarah Palin so vocally here and at The Minority Report, and all of a sudden I’m hearing these surprising revelations, what’s next? So there was some shock there.

    Then I realized that maybe I was shocked simply because it was new situation that I hadn’t anticipated (and I don’t think many people here anticipated it either.)

    Finally, it sunk in that having this discussion at this time, in the context of the first Republican female VP nominee, could be a very productive and welcome discussion. In other words, there are a lot of important subjects that this development gives us the chance to talk about more concretely, as we meet for our party convention, and that’s a good thing. So I realized that it could be a positive development, not an unpleasant surprise.

    Hopefully all of us get the chance to be young and in love: it’s one of the more sublime experiences of being human, intense and fleeting, unique and beautiful. The important thing is really how we talk about it and make it a part of our conscience as Republicans, in this context. And for the two young people at the center of it, they have already created something truly awesome and wondrous: let’s not turn that into something awful just because we didn’t necessarily expect it. Politics is shaped by events as much as it is driven by philosophy and principles — some surprise there, right? Tell me something I don’t know, as it were.

    The real measure of our intergrity is how we respond to the unexpected and handle it as a kind of extended family, which is how I like to think of our Party.

  • Darin_H

    Though she might want to have it in Alaska with her friends & family there and there might be a lot of logistical problems

  • dbecraft

    to be perplexed…! Life goes on folks – common everyday things happen. This has nothing to do with Sarah Palin’s capabilities or any other thing. It is only a shock because it is new and unexpected.

    Geez guys, this is what life brings us everyday and those of you that are shocked might be out of touch a bit…

    Got to stop looking at political spin so much…

  • Flagstaff

    use this as an attack on Sarah Palin, it will boomerang right back and bite them in the, “But doesn’t this prove….” Bupkis.

    It’s human nature to be fallible. We rise above our fallibility when we not only overcome our mistakes but make life better in their wake.

    This story will disappear because there is no way the Dim’s can turn it to their advantage.

  • BookLover

    I am over it. Life goes on. Unless you are a liberal then you terminate if it is inconvienent. As someone that never like the family values platform anyway, I don’t have to explain anything to the liberals about my continued support of Sarah Palin.

  • gamecock

    understood that we

    a) are believers in right and wrong

    b) understand good needs to be advocated

    c) understand that advocating good lessens bad

    d) understand that bad will still happen

    e) are for forgiveness, repentence, taking responsibility, marriage and life

    f) that children need fathers

    and so that this matter would not hurt the nominee with a large majority of voters

    welcome wiser kowalski

  • kowalski

    If they got married after the inauguration, not necessarily in the White House but in Washington. The Protocol Mavens would probably have to write a new chapter for hosting a marriage like that at the WH, but hey:

    McCain’s already done several unconventional things in this election cycle. Who knows else is in store?

    Talk about drama.

  • kowalski

    All that’s true, GC, but let’s remember something else:

    There is nothing that the media in this country won’t turn into a negative story on Republicans, and make it stick.

    That’s the problem. Particularly when the story invites it. So don’t give me any of the boilerplate talk, because I know it as well as you do and for the past four years it hasn’t mattered.

  • kowalski

    Is that the Democrats are so determined to recapture the Presidency and both houses of Congress that four years ago they insitutionalized lying as a tactic of official campaign policy.

    Bob Shrum said it right out loud on television, and those are the people we’re dealing with. It’s a “by any means necessary” group of people we’re fighting here, and consoling ourselves that we’re not in a really nasty knife fight is meaningless.

    The Democrats are prepared and in fact eager to do anything they have to do to get back into the White House, including destroying as many people as they have to with utter falsehood. A lot of Republicans still don’t realize that, I think.

    Four years ago when President Bush was inaugurated for his second term, the glee and hubris in this party was unmistakable. That lasted about 4 months, and we’ve been running with our tails between our legs ever since. We’re up against people who are out for the jugular, Game. Happy slogans aren’t going to beat them, and neither are unexpected surprises from a Presidential nominee who perhaps still thinks he’s got some mojo with the media.

    Earth to McCain: you don’t.

  • pilgrim

    The media in this country has been turning everything into a negative story on Republicans for most of my life. I’m old enough to remember the assassination of JFK, and listening to David Brinkley report how the ‘atmosphere of hatred for JFK’ by the rightwingers was responsible for the assassination.

    But the trick for each new generation of Americans is to get a sense of what values are important independently of what they are told by watching network news anchors. They manage to do it, because if they didn’t then the Ds would have won every contest for Pres. That hasn’t happened.

  • gamecock

    that we need not fear the MSM when we have right on our side and the courage to see it thru.

    agreed?

    or are you still frightened into the fetal position by the mere threat the msm will “make ‘it’ stick”?

    hope not

  • dbecraft

    As one of the older generation, I have seen this happen for decades and still hoping for a turn-a-round. I doubt that it will happen in my lifetime.

    Still waiting for an Integrity awakening for the politicians (Note that I did not specify party – but the Democrats are out by default).

    McCain and Palin represents the best chance that I’ve seen and hope that the majority of the public sees this and sees through the rhetoric of Obama…

  • kowalski

    Game, really. It’s not about you and me. It’s about the way the stories get told beyond our control and despite everyone’s best efforts. I’m not “curling up in the fetal position” but neither am I sugarcoating the fact that there’s a good chance this is going to wind up as a net negative when all is said and done, unless people in this party recognize what they’re up against.

    I still think McCain might be under the illusion that there is some residual goodwill in the media for him because of his famous and often-ballyhooed ability to “reach across the aisle.” If he entertains any of those beliefs, they’re an illusion, and the next few days of coverage combined with yesterday’s and today’s should prove that to him beyond the shadow of a doubt.

    He’s a Republican. He’s the enemy. Period.

    We’re living in a media environment that is going to give McCain/Palin — and us by extension — no credit, no assistance, and certainly not any time to catch their breath. They’re going to hammer this out-of-wedlock pregnancy and wring it for everything it’s worth. It’s already started today.

    It’s certainly possible and honorable if McCain knew it and Palin knew it and made the choice to go through with this anyway. But I’m not under any illusions that they’re up against a media machine that’s bigger and more powerful than they are, and neither should you be.

  • kowalski

    Having “right” on your side doesn’t guarantee you’re going to prevail in a contest driven by the mechanics of force, biblical accounts of David vs. Goliath notwithstanding.

  • gamecock

    known leftists lose every time ‘ski

    that seems to be the lesson too many at redstate can’t seem to learn despite the 7 out of 10 victories in opresidential elections

    I have heard the moaning all of those winning years

    sorry if I got nasty brother
    but pessimism in the face of what wins for us frustrates me

    I live for these days
    when the left exposes its evil face and our landslide is cemented

    luv ya bro