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In Defense of Marriage and Logic

I despise illogical argument, and I love my wife.  But just as much, I love my culture, that sum of received practice, belief, and wisdom I have come to share, or to believe I share, with those around me.

So my hair stands on end when libertarian Doug Mataconis of Outside the Beltway (and dozens of others, apparently) retweet self-described liberal statistician :

If gay marriage threatens your marriage, you haven’t got much of a marriage.

That little line, destined to become a liberal talking point, encapsulates at least two logical fallacies.

First, no one I’m aware of is arguing that their own marriage will be harmed by allowing people who are unqualified to marry to do so.  Straw man arguments are often appealing to those already convinced, but merely draw ire from those who disagree.

Second, it exhibits the Fallacy of Division, in which the parts of a thing are conflated with the whole. It is not the case that two unqualified individuals marrying harms my marriage in any appreciable way, nor do they even harm marriage itself.  But in the aggregate, the change to the structure of the institution is profound.

And it is the institution I wish to protect.  For our nation, and indeed Western civilization, derives considerable benefit from it. Children are best reared when their parents are there.  Women are protected from the misuse of their youth by a lifelong commitment. Most importantly, marriage is an ideal, and ideals are what policy should encourage.  That the ideal is becoming less common is not the fault of marriage, but those who have blindly or with malice sown the seeds of its deterioration.

The unspoken premise in all of this, of course, is the old argument over whether homosexuality is acquired or innate.  The human mind is a glorious thing, able to convince its owner of all sorts of things that are not so.  Those owners are often unwilling to admit that they have been convinced of an untruth.

But it has thus far not been shown that homosexuality is genetic in origin. That seems strikingly odd, since all sorts of personality traits such as alcoholism or even the tendency to like one’s job have been shown to have genetic origin. So innately biological a phenomenon ought to have some genetic component, but despite great effort, no such cause has been found.

Were homosexuality found to be genetic, I would be beating the civil rights drum for non-discrimination while thanking God for making me as I am.  But thus far, it seems only a choice.

Now, were some church (or some social club calling itself a church) to begin handing out marriage certificates to gay couples, I really wouldn’t care.  It’s cultural folly, but that’s the price of freedom.

For my government to do it, on the other hand, is a different story.  Because government handing out marriage certificates places a stamp of approval on the gay union, and that, for a variety of cultural and religious reasons, I do not share.  Taking what ought to remain a private liberty and giving it the imprimatur of government puts my approval on the choice of another, and that is a choice of which I would never approve.  Why I do not approve is not the issue; that I do not is.

Even if government approval does not imply my own, that will be quickly demanded.  For if something is legal, it must be moral, right?

If the issue is your liberty, you have it; if it is my approval, you do not.

And indeed, the burden of proof is on those who wish to further change marriage to show that their alteration would not harm it, or at least, to show that the harm they would do is somehow offset by the benefits of the new policy.  As GK Chesterton wrote:

There exists in such a case a certain institution or law; let us say for the sake of simplicity, a fence or gate erected across a road. The more modern type of reformer goes gaily up to it and says, “I don’t see the use of this; let us clear it away.” To which the more intelligent type of reformer will do well to answer: “If you don’t see the use of it, I certainly won’t let you clear it away. Go away and think. Then, when you can come back and tell me that you do see the use of it, I may allow you to destroy it.” This paradox rests on the most elementary common sense. The gate or fence did not grow there. It was not set up by somnambulists who built it in their sleep. It is highly improbable that it was put there by escaped lunatics who were for some reason loose in the street. Some person had some reason for thinking it would be a good thing for somebody. And until we know what the reason was, we really cannot judge whether the reason was reasonable. It is extremely probable that we have overlooked some whole aspect of the question, if something set up by human beings like ourselves seems to be entirely meaningless and mysterious. There are reformers who get over this difficulty by assuming that all their fathers were fools; but if that be so, we can only say that folly appears to be a hereditary disease. But the truth is that nobody has any business to destroy a social institution until he has really seen it as an historical institution.

Libertarian philosophy is oblivious to institutions and traditions, an area of weakness that leaves it incapable of being used in governing.  Liberal philosophy, on the other hand, is openly hostile to institutions and tradition.

So it is unsurprising when liberals, so intent on protecting the commons from pollution, cannot see the damage they do to our cultural institutions, and on being shown, do not care.

COMMENTS

  • itrytobenice

    The level of hubris that exists among our population today. Their belief is plainly stated: Unless *I* can see the reason thus and so is in existence, it should not be in existence.

    5,000 years of humanity, stretching across primitive and advanced civilizations, have cleaved to husband/wife marriage, but we know better. Hubris.

    And that is a *great* quote by GK Chesterson.

    BTW, your Tolerance Society card is hereby revoked. :-)

    • http://teapartisan.wordpress.com Socrates

      *Ouch*. Why didn’t you tell me it would hurt?

      • http://www.examiner.com/x-1597-Charlotte-Law--Politics-Examiner Mike gamecock DeVine
      • http://westforwestwing2012.com heartlander

        …because you object — object, you say! — to the repressive, inhibiting, party-pooping, fuddy-duddy, unnecessarily limiting, un-cool, un-hip, cranky, crochety, hopelessly old-fashioned law of gravity — and therefore, such a highly evolved being as yourself, more enlightened than all the rest of us, need not trouble to abide by it.

        You’re free to defy that “obsolete” old law of gravity — but when you lie dying on the ground, are you going to get all huffy and blame Nature — mean old Nature! — for being constructed the way it is?

  • froster

    “For if something is legal, it must be moral, right?”

    There’s a lot of stuff our federal government does that is technically legal (since they did it) but is not moral in one way.

    • itrytobenice

      that gov’t policies are *actually* moral, but studies have shown that having gov’t sanction sways an inordinate amount of people to perceive the policy is moral.

      The study I saw showed that prior to Roe v. Wade, a wide majority of Americans saw abortion as an immoral act. Immediately after Roe v. Wade, the numbers had changed significantly and many more people perceived abortion as a moral choice.

      There had been no medical, informational, or scientific breakthrough. The only change was that the Supreme Court gave its blessing and a Constitutional protection to the act, giving it a sheen of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

      Unfortunately, many people don’t put much effort into their perceptions, just go along with the crowd, and gov’t is a very powerful crowd in terms of making people believe that democratic acceptability = respectable, responsible, and moral.

  • K.

    Were homosexuality found to be genetic, I would be beating the civil rights drum for non-discrimination while thanking God for making me as I am. But thus far, it seems only a choice.

    There has been found to be some genetic component to homosexuality, though certainly not as much as traits like intelligence and introversion.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation#Twin_studies

    But I do not really think this matters. There is more of a case to make that many aspects of personality are genetic than for homosexuality but even for personality we do not claim that special exceptions should be made for people who are very shy or outgoing. It is just ridiculous.

    • kestrel

      now admits that there is no “gay” gene. They have changed their literature to reflect this. You can read the old and new statements here: http://www.wnd.com/?pageId=97940

      Dean Byrd, the past president of NARTH (National Association of Research & Therapy of Homosexuality, comments:

      “Although there is no mention of the research that influenced this new position statement, it is clear that efforts to ‘prove’ that homosexuality is simply a biological fait accompli have failed. The activist researchers themselves have reluctantly reached that conclusion. There is no gay gene. There is no simple biological pathway to homosexuality.”

      Maybe because global warming scientists have been exposed as frauds, other scientists and associated groups are starting to clean up their act rather than risk losing all credibility?

    • DRW

      I prefer to avoid the argument about is it or is it not a genetic issue because it really is a trap – once there’s enough people saying “I’d support it but it’s not genetic” then all that’s needed is a study that’s accepted by a “consensus” of scientists that says it is genetic.

      However, it doesn’t matter to me. My genes do not define who I am – saying otherwise reduces me to a computer program. I have no problem with the concept that your genes may predispose you to something – be it alcoholism, depression, homosexuality, etc. We all have our weaknesses and thorns. But having an alcoholism gene doesn’t give me a pass if I become an alcoholic – it is something to watch out for, something that I may have to work harder at then others, but not a sentence I must carry out.

      • aesthete

        One’s genes only determine predilection, not destiny. Even if it were genetic, what matters is the morality of the action: surely we would not excuse pedophiles were we to find a genetic component in their sexual preferences?

        • E Pluribus Unum

          Another example: people who have a genertic predilection toward display of temper are not justified in acting like horse’s butts any old time they feel like giving in to their “inner lawyer”.

      • http://westforwestwing2012.com heartlander

        Thank you, DRW. This is what I’ve been saying for years. I actually think that in a small percentage of cases, there is indeed a genetic disposition toward homosexuality. Is it fair? Heck no. Life is NOT FAIR. Only two-year-olds expect it to be, and then throw temper-tantrums when it isn’t. I’m not trying to discount the pain and suffering of anyone’s particular affliction — and I think homosexuality is probably one of the toughest to bear — but we ALL have our unique crosses to bear. Nature may deal us a bad hand genetically, but we each choose how to play it.

        As Spider-Man said, you always have a choice.

  • runner12

    arguments I have heard against the gay marriage push, It was thoughtful, intelligent, dirrect, and yet respectful. Well done and massive 5′s.

    • http://teapartisan.wordpress.com Socrates

      But still missing is direct reasoning about why marriage is good but should not be extended to cover gay marriage. After all, if it protects women from men, should it not also protect one partner from another?

      There will come a time, and that time may be here, when demanding that the other side have the burden of proof is insufficient.

      • aesthete

        Gay partnerships are distinct from man-woman partnerships, precisely because of the power disparity between men and women. A structure is needed to protect women from men because, like it or not, men inherently have more power in the relationship as the primary breadwinners, are generally stronger than women, are less tethered to the relationship, and have several social/biological factors in their favor that would adversely impact married women without a clearly delineated contract protecting the relationship and providing for her material security in the case of a termination of the relationship. There is not a similar delineation in man-man or woman-woman pairings: generally speaking, neither relationship is established for the purpose of rearing children, and both of the persons in the relationship are well-off and able to earn wealth independent of their partner. Given these facts, it is easy to see why persistent homosexual relationships are not as in need of a contract as persistent heterosexual ones. Marriage is essentially a contract constraining the freedoms of both parties involved

        IMO, the above calls for even more restrictions on marriage, given that there are many modern-day heterosexual couples that don’t fit the structure of the nuclear family articulated above (two-parent one or one and a half income family with the husband as the primary breadwinner). Moreover, the institution as handled by the government is still far too easy to divest oneself from: the ease with which one can exit the contract of marriage, paired with the government’s preference for mothers in custody cases, are extremely wealth-destructive, retard the acquisition of human capital on the part of children, and make future acquisition of wealth very difficult for both the children in question and the mother. For government (particularly western democracies), it is very difficult to push for marriage to make marriage even more restrictive than it currently is, due to feminist and civil rights concerns.

        Private parties are not similarly constricted: a church, for example, can have its own marriage ceremonies at the discretion of the pastor. Privatizing marriage is the optimal solution precisely because of options that are available to it, which aren’t available to the government. Divesting government from marriage, coupled with a strong, universal partnership contract more difficult to get out of, would be more beneficial for marriage and the nuclear family than the status quo, which is too easy to enter and exit (see weddings, Las Vegas). (Eliminating the couples’ tax breaks and increasing the tax break for dependents would be another way to reduce gaming of the system.) At the same time, creating a different contract for homosexual partnerships addressing their unique concerns (hospital visitations, sharing of property, equitable division of property in case of contract dissolution, etc) and allowing for it to be open to all partnerships, including those of a non-romantic nature, would be beneficial for all parties concerned.

        • acat

          I clearly see (and argue for) the Church having the right to control who can and cannot receive the sacrament of marriage.

          I can also see where the Church could (and probably should…) add its’ own legal contract (requirement for arbitration by church leaders prior to divorce, requirement for raising children in the church, etc. etc.) to any government partnership… ideally binding in the families and friends of husband and wife to make it obvious that a church marriage means more than just two people shacking up. (and given divorce rates among people who regularly attend church, this seems to be something that needs reinforcing…)

          What I’m unclear on is why you’d have two different contracts, especially if tax breaks for marriage are removed and replaced with tax breaks for raising dependents.

          Mew

          • aesthete

            would be better if it were fluid (i.e., more easily terminable) than would be the case in a heterosexual marriage, in which the partners have less parity and need to have incentives to prevent them from splitting when there are children involved. Ideally, government would offer both forms of contracts as “default” options with easy to fill out paperwork for both, and the former would be oriented towards the unique concerns of heterosexual couples interested in something close to the nuclear family. Neither contract should give away more goodies or otherwise provide unfair advantages to one over the other: the marriage contract would simply be structured in such a way as to be more binding, and more difficult to enter or exit. Marriage really needs to be more restrictive than it currently is: as it’s currently constituted, a shotgun wedding in LA joining together two venial drunks is conferred the same status as one that is conducive to having children, and that is entirely inappropriate. In practice, I could deal with civil unions for all with no tax breaks or benefits that require taking from the general populace, since I don’t trust the current government to adequately handle the tiered system described above. If we’re to stick with the status quo, I would like for government marriage to not have couples’ benefits or tax cuts, and for them to have more tax breaks for dependents.

          • aesthete

            in your idea that the church could have a go-to form adding in those restrictions I described. I do see merit in the state having some interest in providing a common framework for children (future citizens) to have a fighting chance as adults to make something of themselves, though, and more restrictive marriage licenses as a default seem to me to infringe on no one’s freedom (so long as both parties consent to the marriage) or on parental discretion (indeed, it enhances it in many ways). I would accept your alternative in the real world, though (where feminists and other interests wouldn’t let a tiered proposal get off the ground).

          • acat

            … government standards for pre-nuptial agreements.

            While I definitely agree that marriage should be harder to get out of than it is, I’d rather see that covered by the church contract instead of the civil one… I’m a little afraid of what a government pre-nup would look like… or who would enforce it.

            It does appear safer, given our government, to remove any tax benefits or penalties, but to increase the benefits to those actively participating in the raising of children…

            Mew

          • aesthete

            Not sure if any government has ever been competent enough to balance that tightrope (I certainly don’t buy into the idyllic idea that government was full of Ward Cleavers once upon a time), but this one certainly isn’t. So yes, given our government, it would probably be better to go with what you suggest.

          • jdw4america

            It is the foundational unit of any society. For thousands of years, human beings have recognized the marital unit not only as a means of providing a protective measure for women, but to primarily protect the children of that unit. Said children are thus entitled to the unique protection, support and affection from this unit. This is a human construct, not a governmental one, and for that reason, no government has the right to re-define it in accordance to its agenda, most especially over the expressed objection of the people.

            The evidence is very clear, that whenever the government interferes with what has been the civilization’s understanding of marriage and family, the result has always been to weaken the family, disrupt marriages and wreak havoc in the lives of children. By claiming that heterosexual marriage is nothing more than a cultural anachronism, that trend will not be reversed, but advanced.

          • acat

            Government, for the most party, didn’t care about marriage until it started to affect government… inheritance of titles and assets…

            So… what’s the problem with getting government out of marriage?

            Mew

  • belcatar

    I have the same feelings, although I haven’t been able to express them as clearly as you have. I’ve posted this link before, so if you’ve seen it already, forgive me, but it’s relevant to the gay marriage discussion.

    http://tech.mit.edu/V124/N5/kolasinski.5c.html

  • Common_Cents

    when I am shown proof two men or two women can get pregnant and give birth. Until then, that is the absolute dividing line given by God, Mother Nature or whatever higher power one believes in. If we were to be homogenous and equal we’d be asexual, able to reproduce each by ourselves or with same sex partners. It still takes a man and a woman to procreate to continue our species. That should count for something, no? Same sex couples are fine as I’m not one to judge but I don’t think they should be given same standing as hetero couples as same sex couples cannot contribute the ability to continue our species.

  • bobmontgomery

    ….the Washington Post (Christ Patti) is advancing the ball. Moving beyond just being allowed to serve “openly” (still haven’t swallowed that one whole yet), it is now, ‘How will the military proceed to give homosexuals all the rights and privileges that straights have.’ You know the list – preferential duty assignments to be near your lover,access to military health care facilities same sex on-base housing and housing allowances if you have a ‘partner’. This steam rolleer isn’t going to stop rolling.
    When Patti wrote about the housing allowance if you have a ‘partner’, I thought “Do you have to prove that your ‘partner’ is a homosexual? Do you have to prove that you are ‘homosexual? How do you prove that? Or do you just have to sign a statement saying you have a ‘partner’? What if you and your ‘partner’ are not homosexuals, but just taking advantage of shopping at the PX? What if your ‘partner’ just recently came to the US from …….Yemen? No one claiming no harm has thought this through. No one.

    • http://teapartisan.wordpress.com Socrates

      Not on partnership.

      But that’s on the list, too. It’s marriage that the leftists are after, not rights for gays. They want to destroy the institution because it represents Daddy.

      • bobmontgomery

        …haggling over the details of one particular initiative or another, or to go on long threads about ideas whose time has come, or how best to manage the finances and what the difficulties would be of implementing subsections c,d,and e, you have already advanced the ball.

  • CairoFaulkner

    “And it is the institution I wish to protect. For our nation, and indeed Western civilization, derives considerable benefit from it. Children are best reared when their parents are there.”

    That children benefit from having two parents is not the same thing as saying that children benefit from marriage.

    “Women are protected from the misuse of their youth by a lifelong commitment.”

    What on earth does this mean?

    You make the argument that because it has not been proven to be genetic, it must therefore be a choice. This has a number of holes in it. First, genes are hereditary, and so that homosexuality cannot be proven to be genetic means only that it cannot be proven to be hereditary. It does not follow from this that it similarly cannot be the product of hormonal imbalances that are *not* hereditary, or the environment of the individual – neither of which are a choice, but neither of which are genetic.

    Secondly, no theory is of use if it lacks explanatory power. Your theory that ‘thus far, it seems only a choice’ begs the question, *why* would anyone choose to suffer the prejudice that homosexuals so regularly face? For that matter, how do we choose who we are attracted to in the first place? What are the limits to this power of sexual choice? Can I choose to be attracted to my dog, or my garden?

    • http://teapartisan.wordpress.com Socrates

      Except that studies show children are best off when the two people who procreated to make them also live together and raise them, even when those two people don’t have the best relationship.

      I’m not going in to the special cases of that. I avoided the topic of how the children of gay couples turn out, because it’s a can of worms (and frequently an unhappy one). I avoided the topic of people living together because it was too much to cover, and also because it’s not really germane.

      ?Women are protected from the misuse of their youth by a lifelong commitment? should have said ?Women are protected by a lifelong commitment from the misuse of their youth?. It means that because men tend to want to use a sweet young thing until she starts to sag and wrinkle, marriage gets them to commit to a life, children, and a place in the community that will cause them embarrassment to reject.

      The same is not true for same-sex couples, because the dominance and mobility of two people of the same gender is much more similar than that of opposite sex couples. There is an order of magnitude difference between the different kinds of couples, in fact, since almost all men are stronger and less committed than almost all women.

      Yes, it’s possible for homosexuality to be congenital and not genetic. In neither case is the condition likely to be determinative, and therefore it must be considered a choice.

      It’s probably comforting to say “born that way”, but I simply don’t believe it.

      And did I mention this is not a big topic with me? I really only wanted to refute that one silly tweet.

      Finally, I don’t have to supply a theory to explain it. I don’t care to think about it, and don’t recommend that anyone do so.

      • CairoFaulkner

        “Except that studies show children are best off when the two people who procreated to make them also live together and raise them, even when those two people don?t have the best relationship.”

        …but that’s still not the same thing as marriage.

        “Finally, I don?t have to supply a theory to explain it. I don?t care to think about it, and don?t recommend that anyone do so.”

        How ludicrous. You recommend we maintain a system that many people take objection to. If you are to do that, the least you can do is justify it. Do you actually know any gay couples? For something that is ‘not a big topic’ with you, you seem to have given it an awful lot of thought!

        • Scope

          I’ve seen several sites that have a thumbs up or down, and the numbers accumulate. Rather than personal attacks, or name calling, I suggest a negative number to how much you disagree.

          I give the comment I am replying to a -10, at least.

          • acat

            As in Obamas… A really bad comment would need both Barack and Michelle.

            The Red State 5s are apparently part of a system that you’ve seen elsewhere that was implemented at one time but since abandoned.

            I’m not sure what you dislike about Faulkner’s comment, though. Did you perhaps forget to include that part in your reply?

            Mew

          • CairoFaulkner

            Well that’s totally changed my thinking Scope. What a powerful refutation of my arguments and a wonderful contribution to the discusson at hand. Who says philosophy is dead?

            It seems that ‘I disapprove’ is pretty much all this argument amounts to. Perhaps that’s why you resort to silly emotionalism and distraction – something I thought was the preserve only of the left.

        • http://teapartisan.wordpress.com Socrates

          but two people procreating and raising the result definitely isn’t gay. Defending a binding marital agreement versus cohabitation is a distraction.

          The amount of thought it appears I have put into this topic is simply the result of my writing style and approach to problem solving. Realize that much of what I wrote could have been written about people who like cats versus people who like dogs. That is, I’m talking about logic and argument.

          That’s sort of my role here.

          • acat

            This would be interesting news to the progenitors of adoptees and bastards…

            If the issue is really the kids, then you should have no objections to a government blinded to marriage (returning the sacrament to the control of the church, an organization far less subject to change than government…) but granting tax benefits to those raising children would appear to be a reasonable compromise.

            I’m not asking you to remove a wall or a gate. I’m instead asking you to consider whether the current situation, where the wall is maintained well in part (by the church) but not in another part (by government) is really what you want.

            Mew

          • http://www.examiner.com/x-1597-Charlotte-Law--Politics-Examiner Mike gamecock DeVine

            are a great benefit to maintaining a good civilization/society. In fact, civil marriage arose in part due to the desire of non-religious couples.

            Government would remain blind to marriage only at its peril. So much of human history and struggles is about trying to make sure children are raised by two parents rather than becoming wards/burdens of the state.

            See Chaucer re chastity belts etc…

          • http://www.examiner.com/x-1597-Charlotte-Law--Politics-Examiner Mike gamecock DeVine

            in a few states arose due to people living on the frontier and far from churches and/or civil magistrates?

          • acat

            It was also not uncommon for a parish priest in merry old England to find a couple, with kids and sometimes grandkids, who weren’t married before the church because they couldn’t afford the silver penny that the church wanted to perform the ceremony…

            Yes, I get that marriage is a Good Thing. Yes, I want to keep it around. No, I don’t want to require the church to perform marriages for people it doesn’t deem fit to marry…. although with the divorce rate among the churched and unchurched running neck and neck I don’t see where y’all are being choosy enough…

            What I want is for the Church, who I judge to be a better keeper of societal values, to be the ones who decide who can and can’t be married, and for the government to not have the ability to override the Church. … which is the way we’re currently heading.

            My concern is that SoCons, whose motives I don’t fully understand (when y’all seem happy to use the government to enforce this societal norm but tell me to trust that they won’t use it to enforce other societal norms I gotta wonder…) appear to be setting themselves up to get rolled by the government, possibly abandoning the FiCons and Libertarians in their quest to keep the status quo…

            Mew

          • http://www.examiner.com/x-1597-Charlotte-Law--Politics-Examiner Mike gamecock DeVine

            I also don’t want the Church to be forced to marry anyone and would oppose that. What I support are government policies that promote marriage and esp that child births be within marriage. I also support the right of a man and a woman to get a civil marriage.

            Marriage is such a good thing that I think civilization and self government are products of good marriages and not vice versa in the evolution of things.

            Not sure at all what you mean by government “enforcing the norm”. Can you be specific?

            Also, you really do take the puny extreme groups too seriously and should not label so-cons by what they do and say. Rather, judge us by what the overwhelming majority of us do and say and what we don;t do and say.

            See elections since late 70s rather than statements by “leaders”.

            Divorce rates are an indictment of the debasing of the culture and not the institution, and given your desire to make the Church the exclusive arbiter of marriage, aren’t you self-contradictory>

            I would also like to see the internals on “churched” but would also remind that the Church welcomes the sick! smile

            more later

          • acat

            I would also like to see the internals on “churched divorce rate” … evangelical vs. catholic vs. mainstream-protestant would, I suspect, be quite revealing. Unfortunately, what I saw was the overall tally, not the internals, and I was unable to get more data. And yes, I know the church isn’t supposed to bury the wounded….

            My point on government enforcing the norms can be found quite easily in the replies to this diary – there are a number of SoCons – a majority of them here, anyway – who want to use the government to restrict marriage to its’ current one-man-one-woman definition.

            I would encourage the church to keep this definition, of course. It is, as you say, a keystone of society. The problem that I see with the current situation, where both the church and the government lay claim to the word, is that while the church is relatively rigid, the government is not… and is being manipulated to re-define the term.

            I view energy put into stopping this as a waste of time, not because it’s a poor goal, but because it’s the wrong tactic, it’s poor ground on which to fight. Both parties fighting over a lump of putty, if you will. To put it in Gamecock terms, while defense is important, there’s no way to win while only playing defense…. and that’s what I see happening.

            It would appear to me better to blind the government to marriage – allowing some form of simplified partnership document to fill the gap – thus removing the government right to decide who can marry as well as neutering the desire of the more obnoxious pro-gay types to meddle in the government. Let them run headlong off a cliff, as it were, since government cannot grant them the acceptance they’re screeching for.

            The energy freed up can then be applied on offense – encouraging active support of two-parent families, tax benefits for both parents raising children together, working to strengthen traditional values, etc. but outside of government.

            This seems to me to have the best chance of success long-term.

            Mew

          • CairoFaulkner

            Mew has pretty much said all that I’d say. If the issue is parents, why don’t you support government support of parenthood, rather than of marriage? Marriage and parenthood are separate institutions. It seems needlessly confusing to subsidise one in support of the other.

          • bobmontgomery

            Law and justice? Rights and responsibilities? Ability and talent? Why is it that everyone wanting to appear to keep government out of things and wanting to compartmentalize the interactions of human beings, on the other hand insist that government must sanction said compartmentalized, isolated, unrelated and immaterial things like homosexual marriage? And further, whether you prefer the Socratic or the I- have -a government-sanctioned right- to-what-she-has method, when it comes to simple statement of the role of government, the curioser and curioser part is why the liberals and the liberated demand the government sanction and pay the concomittant costs of a parade down the middle of main street for the display of a lifestyle, but feign persecution by, and demand pro-bono prosecution of, those local agencies who would dare to condone a possibly religious symbol in the wilds of Utah in honor of public officials who have given their lives so that the exhibitionists may strut their stuff. And further, it would appear to be germane to ask the question, since hints at this have already arisen, whether refusal by a public official, or government employee, to participate in ‘homosexual pride’ celebrations amounts to official bigotry, versus the more supported proposition that forced participation or penalty amounts to violation of conscience and, if Congress is involved, First Amendment issues.

            Whatever the case, does anyone seriously believe that 45 yeas of successful pandering,baiting and litigious frivolity by the likes of the ACLU, the SPLC and others is going to suddenly be abandoned? Like GE, Progress is their most important product

          • acat
          • CincoSolas_del_Bronx

            is the result of a degradation which entered American Protestantism with the Second Great Awakening. While theological liberalism gutted the faith of supernatural elements until only an ethical veneer was left, frontier Christianity had little stomach for ancient doctrine. While holding to sufficient biblical authority to at least retain the supernatural, conservative Protestantism effectively reduced the faith until it was little more than a primitive, often culturally-influenced, system of civic morality. The liberal-ethical theology tended to find political expression more frequently than the conservative-moral due to the concurrent influence of pietism, but with the ascension of triumphalism among Evangelicals around 1980–why then, I wonder?–it became increasingly attractive to hitch cultural goals to policy rather than personal transformation.

          • bobmontgomery

            Triumphalism…Yes, indeed we want to beat you forward-thinking city-dwelling types into submission. We just love fighting. What a shame that the great Amer – excuse me – European ideal of Progressive sophistication had to be interrupted by the dictates of defeating totalitarian hegemony and mass murder. And having successfully acomplished that on more than two occasions in the last century, we brutes have nothing better to do than keep you sophisticates from your artisanship and experimental sociology. Is that about it? You are going to argue that the attractiveness of attaching cultural goals to policy began in 1980? With Social Conservatives? Seriously?

          • CincoSolas_del_Bronx
          • bobmontgomery

            Conflation would be Acat saying social conservatives want big government to bail them out, when actually that is a liberal trait. In fact, I think 864 federal judges is about 840 too many, What social conservatives want is a purposeful government, much as what stockholders want in a corporation is a purposeful corporation. No, I don’t think that calling attention to the fact that mocking conservatives by calling them triumphalists, whether done by libertarians or done by liberals, is conflating anything. Mocking conservatives is mocking conservatives. “Primitive, culturally-influenced civic morality.” Do you mean the civilization that the founders gave the pioneers to spread across the land, often in very adverse conditions? Yes, it probably was a little coarse back then, but if you want to ‘conflate’ it with a lack of virtue, you may do so from your ivory tower. In the flyover states, good behavior is not complicated. If it is complicated in your city, then perhaps it needs more light.
            No, what piqued our curiosity was the business about the policy and the 1980 thing and the hitching cultural goals to policy thing. We were previously led to believe that thatattachment was trendy among academics and operatives who said Reagan was a liar about soviet communism. They were the ones pushing for socialist bureaucracies, not normal people. If you are talking about the Moral Majority/Christian Coalition thing, a lot has been spoken about that, but my take is that whatever cultural rights, traditions, principles, mores, practices, ways of participating in government those groups wanted, they were not new. They were merely restorative. If Madeline Murray O’Hair is your champion, of course, then never mind.

          • acat

            Because that is nothing more than using the Federal Government to, using your words, “bail you out”.

            Again, you’re talking about me, not to me. Where I’m from, that’s considered impolite.

            Mew

          • bobmontgomery

            Wish it hadn’t been necessary, and it’s not bailing anybody out, it was fighting fire with fire, which I more or less said in my reply to Cinco. Wish it hadn’t been necessary. The value of marriage to civil society should have been apparent. But militant anarchist homosexual activists were, and are, bent on destroying it, and so. It is not a power grab; it is not an expansion of government; it is not an overture to ‘big government’; it is a return to normalcy
            and to maintain the moral underpinnings of the government. That someone wants to cleverly equate a moral social order with the tyranny of ‘big government’ trivializes tyranny. I am talking both about you and to you when I say that you, and whoever it is whose interests you claim to represent, risk losing not only what freedoms you think you have, but freedoms you don’t even realize you have, when you insist your government operate without a moral authority. And calling for the church to ‘pull its sacraments back from the government’ which you have done, is a thin disguise for calling on the government to operate without a moral authority.

          • acat

            Government is a construct, an inanimate thing, created by people. It can have no more morals than my toaster.

            The men and women who write our laws have morals, of course, and try to create a government that is fair and just, but .. the concept of fair is not the same as morals, nor is the concept of justice.

            In any case, this is fighting a cultural problem with the government. This has never been done successfully. The only way to resolve cultural problems is to change the culture .. and so far, the church seems to have forgotten how to do that.. instead, prefering to follow the ’60s liberals and run to the government to make it better.

            By the way, “Return to normalcy” was a great slogan. Worked out very well for Harding, didn’t it?

            Mew

          • bobmontgomery

            …something the liberals kept pounding in our heads that we just couldn’t quite grasp! It is the fair people who write laws creating government! No, it is moral people who write laws for fairness thus creating an amoral government! Got it! It’s the Fairness Doctrine! So the people who write our laws are creating a government, and they are doing it fairly because they are moral, but they are not moral because they are creating government, they are moral because they go to church, which has forgotten how to change the culture. Okay, I’m getting a little bogged down here. Are they changing the culture to be more moral or more fair? The church, I mean. Okay, we’ll say to be more moral, because fairness is the government’s province, right? The church’s function is to change the culture to be more moral and they shouldn’t go running to the government to do it, but they should provide moral people to the government to write laws for fairness. And fairness means everybody getting what they want, even if it doesn’t belong to them, right? Marriage should be from the church and not from the government – you have said so. So if everybody gets what they want, which is fair and like, social justice, dontchaknow?, then(yeah, fair, like it says in the Constitution, and getting what you want, like it says in the Constitution, and Social Justice, like it says in the Constitution right? No? Forget the Constitution? Okay) for everybody to get what they want,the culture has to change, because the people who write the laws are moral and they get their morality from the church, which has forgotten how to change the culture, so the government is going to have to step in and do it and since the people who create the government are the people who write the laws, they are just going to have to change their morality. See that fair thing was the part I was leaving out. That’s what brings the whole argument into complete clarity.
            Sorry, Acat! Sorry, Cinco! Sorry, Aesthete! If Acat hadn’t remembered to bring up that fairness thing I would still be barking up the wrong tree!

          • acat

            Once I stop laughing, I’ll try to figure out what the hell you’re trying to say.

            So far, it sounds to me like you can’t dispute what I’m saying, so have resorted to throwing a temper tantrum.

            Mew

          • CincoSolas_del_Bronx
          • aesthete

            Suffice it to say, equality of opportunity is different from equality of outcome, and I daresay it’s fairer, too.

          • acat

            He can’t win using actual, you know, logic, so he’s attempting mockery.

            The sad part is, he’s still arguing more with the artificial libertarian construct in his head than with the libertarians here on Red State. (oh, and whatever Cinco Solas is .. I’ll admit, I can sometimes follow Cinco’s logic when it’s explained, but I don’t think “libertarian” is the right tag …)

            What comes after mockery in that Gandhi quote?

            Mew

          • CincoSolas_del_Bronx

            that is, a Libertarian in Another’s Reality, who took my Church History footnote to you, with its internal critique of a long-running weakness in the evangelical movement, as a treatise on Libertarianism–which is quite hysterical, given not only my never having voted for a Libertarian candidate and being registered as RTL, but my complete ignorance of the movement: who in the world is Kirk? I now leave Bob in your and Aesthete’s capable hands; if he still thinks I’m in sinister league with you, you are free to use that to as much or as little advantage as you choose! And if Bob wants to continue the debate with my doppelganger, he is quite welcome to that as well!

          • acat

            And, as I was around in the 1980s, I do remember the rise of Triumphalism… Of course, I also remember Jim and Tammy Faye and their ill-conceived theme park ‘christianity’ .. for whatever that’s worth.

            While Asthete and I may agree from time to time, I suspect “league” is too strong a word… we’ve had a good argument now and again.

            In any event, a glorious day to you!

            Mew

          • CincoSolas_del_Bronx
          • Scope

            imagine what they would be saying to or about Kirk, and his views on libertarianism, and morality. The AK47′s would be on full display.

          • aesthete

            Russell Kirk was a smart guy, but his views on libertarianism were I’ll-informed and shallow.

          • acat

            I love my country and want to see the socialists, marxists, and outright kleptocrats who have been slowly chipping away at it for the last century fail.

            I’m neither a city-dweller nor a european. I’m not fond of experimental sociology either, especially when it’s directed at kids or young adults who don’t – thanks to the school system that the liberals took away from the church over a century ago – even know how to critically think.

            Perhaps Scope is right, and repeating truth won’t get through to you, Bob. I’m not your enemy, and we agree on far more than we disagre on.

            Mew