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Hilary Rosen’s specific point was that Ann Romney, not having been in the workforce outside the home, cannot really relate to women in the workforce. I disagree. Here’s why.

In my experience, with both a stay at home mom raising me, my wife a stay at home mom, and many of my friends married to stay at home moms, the stay at home mother typically raises the kids, cooks the meals, cleans the house, oversees homework, and on top of that the stay at home mom pays the bills, buys the groceries, handles the insurance hassles, knows the co-pay, haggles with the bank, etc. etc. etc.

The stay at home mom deals with many of the same issues the working woman deals with in addition to a host of other matters. It is not that the working woman has it more or less difficult. It is that working women and stay at home moms have it differently difficult in different areas with some days better and some days worse. And single parents, mothers and fathers, have it most difficult. But none are homogenous automatons of one singular thought or view on all topics.

Move past Hilary Rosen’s remarks if you can. The amazing speed at which Democrats sought to distance themselves from her remarks suggests they know that in all the talk about Romney’s problem with women, they have their own.

After Hilary Rosen’s remarks, a number of leftwing pundits came out seemingly upset that Hilary did not go as far as they would have wanted her to. In so doing, these pundits, activists, and politicos have raised up the raw stench of elitism. Luckily, few smelled it because it was drifting in from MSNBC.

Nonetheless, there were people like Joan Walsh of the far left rag Salon. She thought it perfectly okay to pronounce on Hardball yesterday that of course working women have it harder than stay at home moms. Of course they do you women battling breast cancer and suffering from MS while raising five boys without nannies and cooks and maids contrary to what the left has been claiming is, was, and forever more shall be the case with Ann Romney. Never mind that Mitt and Ann Romney gave away their inherited fortune to build their own lives and fortune.

There there is Chris Hayes, also of MSNBC and the even further left than Salon The Nation. He said if Republicans really think that stay at home moms are workers, then they should be paid a wage. Seriously.

It went down hill from there. The most striking thing is the overwhelming presumption from so many on the left who waded into the waters who think only the wealthy can be stay at home moms. As a matter of fact, I know scores of stay at home moms and not a single one’s husband gets them into the 1%, let alone the top 10% for most.

The myopic view of not just stay at home mothers as rich socialites with nannies, but of women in general too, highlights the problem for the Democrats. They talk about the GOP as the party of the rich when they are increasingly a party of the elite. Many of them look on stay at home moms as inferior or second class. Consider Christy Hayes of MSNBC and the Nation who openly wonders if it can really be considered work if they are not getting a salary.

The Democrats seem to believe that all women believe what they believe and are the same. Instead of unique individuals, they are a stereotyped class of women who care only about birth control, abortion, and government benefits. Stay at home moms who fall outside this view are viewed as second class citizens who really can’t be related to and who cannot relate to women in the workforce. Liberal women who prided themselves on feminist advances into society and think of themselves as unique individuals go on twitter and television and radio to proclaim all women same thinking, same liking, same knowing, and . . . well . . . same.

Like black Republicans such as Condelezza Rice, Michael Steel, and Herman Cain who are ridiculed by the left as oreos, Uncle Toms, or worse, women who think differently are treated as second class citizens, inferior, or somehow “other.”

As former Bush Press Secretary Ari Fleischer noted last night, in the 2008 exit polls only 30% of women classified themselves as “working women,” a category of woman the left seems to think is all that matters or counts as legitimate through their rhetoric.

This is precisely why the Democrats have their own problems with women. In thinking women only care about X, Y, or Z, they forget that in 2004 women were mostly concerned with who would keep them safe and this year will be mostly concerned with who will get them, their husbands, their children, their relatives, and their neighbors back into jobs that make ends meet. This is the one area Barack Obama prefers not to talk about.

I compared Rick Santorum a few weeks ago to Dug the dog in the movie Up!. The dog would be engaged in conversation (you have to see the movie to get it) with a person then yell “Squirrel” on the sight of a squirrel, changing his entire focus and attention. Barack Obama now hopes the American voter is like Dug the Dog and can be distracted from an economy that seems more and more like Schrodinger’s cat — alive as long as we pay no attention to it. Dead if we do.

COMMENTS

  • azvick

    They will focus like a laser on this issue. After all, we are speaking of raising the next generation of producers, consumers, inventors, technicians, businessmen and women, thinkers and on and on and on.

    What, pray tell, is more economically productive than raising children? And why is it so debased by Dems, and virtually ignored by the GOP?

    From policies that debase life itself, that minimize family, that encourage the
    misery of dependence and squelch the human spirit, the Left seems so very vulnerable and Hilary Rosen, fortunately, laid that out beautifully.

    Ball’s in your court, GOP.

  • bluemount

    I put up with this nonsense back in the early 70′s when “women’s lib” was just starting and Gloria Steinem and Co. were all for “choice” as long as it did not mean being a homemaker. Having three small chlidren and staying home, it was a constant dreading of comments: “you don’t work”, “you are a baby making machine”, “aren’t you bored?”, “you don’t do anything”. I can’t believe this attitude is still going on today!! And Barbara Bush has added to it by commenting that it is a “luxury” for women to stay home and raise children and also suggesting they should do volunteer work,I guess in order to dignify their staying home. Thanks,Barbara!!

  • spinoneone

    Nah, that smacks too much of work, and pain, and something to be avoided. She just adopted two and lives with her “partner.” I would guess she “wears the pants” in that relationship. Make a home? Nope, just head back to the “pad” every evening, say “hi” to the kids, and ….. And she has the temerity to criticize Ann Romney? What, exactly, has been the backbone of America forever? Certainly not the likes of Hilary Rosen.

  • Ausonius

    Remember that we are talking about quislings, who too often cut and run when they deal with Dems, and who tremble at the thought of attacking in any way “The First Afro-American President In HISTORY!!!”

    He needs to be known as “The First One-Term Lying Socialist President In HISTORY!!!” :)

  • rick554

    Of all the things I’ve done , being a single dad had to be the toughest. This phony war on women is a joke and is showing the libs true colors.

  • http://stevemaley.com Steve Maley

    We must not buy into that way of thinking. All people are individuals.

  • mike_snyder

    I guess it would be a good thing if everyone who reads this were too young to remember Bill Clinton and “Sister Solja”. Clinton was perceived, accurately, to care principally about the dependent class which was then identified with welfare queens, rappers, pimps, drug dealers, etc., the most conspicuous of whom were black. His campaign arranged for a black female unwed mother who worked as a rapper to say something offensive so that Bill could publicly repudiate her statements. He convinced enough white middle class people that his repudiation was sincere to get elected in a three-man race.

    The parallels are too striking to ignore. A lesbian PR flack for the Democratic Party, partner, in business, of Anita Dunn, former White House PR chief and admirer of Mao Tse Dung, who has herself visited the White House some 37 times, says something offensive about housewives. Conservative commentators fall over themselves to denounce her, thus spreading the remarks to Obama’s target audience. Then Obama magesterially repudiates her remarks. No one on the left believes that he’s sincere about this, but they’ll vote for him no matter what he says. Enough gullible and mush-headed independent women are convinced that Obama is a defender of stay-at-home moms that he is reelected.

    We should ignore this, if it’s not too late.

  • davenj1

    the stammering and stuttering from the Left. Funny… sounds like Obama without a teleprompter in front of him. Showing their true colors and helping the GOP. Who could ask for anything more?

  • Ausonius

    It disrupts their equilibrium: my wife and I were discussing this last night. MAObama can claim – like Orwell’s Big Brother – that 2+2 do not equal 4, and the true believers will agree with him. Their dependent psychology is based on “true believing” and they get fearful if anything or anyone rocks the boat.

    You are quite right: even when confronted with the facts, like seeing and hearing BIG BRObama contradicting himself, sometimes in the same speech, they will simply change the subject (“Yeah, well what about George W. Bush when he blah-blah-blah etc. etc. etc. I stopped listening to you”) and remain with their “hero.”

  • roddrepub

    I am in total agreement with you on this one. My mother stayed home with us while my father worked. I am so offended at these comments I could just scream. The elitism on the left knows no bounds.

  • WmCraig

    “They talk about the GOP as the party of the rich when they [Democrats]are increasingly a party of the elite.”

    Democrats depend on the rich for money, power and influence in exchange for favors and monopolies that no Republican could offer and survive.

    I don’t think Obama is raising funds at $35,000 a plate dinners from
    Funny though, normally Democrats do a better job of picking winners then this lot. Maybe they are too “green” at running the party!

  • northeastred

    This is why Mitt Romney is going to present problems. He has one of his best days ever as a candidate after Rosen’s comments, and eventually it gets people looking closer at his wife’s country club life and the cars she drives and the 20 point difference Obama enjoys with women will barely move.

    Mitt needs to get rid of the mom jeans and stick to his suit and focus on gas prices, instead of reminding Americans that they need a Wall Street Hedge Fund type in the White House. That’s what will win him more of the women vote. Ann Romney is not going to bring women to the GOP who aren’t already there.

  • proudmarinemom

    You do not know me, spinoneone, and you can flame me if you wish, but I will not stand by and let you or anyone else denigrate the adoption of children.

    See my post of yesterday on the “Catholic League” thread.

    Adoption requires a tremendous amount of money, time and work. There is, in fact, pain involved.

    I do not condone Hilary Rosen’s snotty attitude toward Ann Romney and SAH mothers, and she deserves to be roundly slammed for it. But leave the adoption of children out of this. Please.

  • annarbor

    For years, I have worked with liberal DINKS (dual income, no kids) and was subjected to their supreme views. The ones with children, DICKS (dual income, couple kids), held professional positions and spent their work days comparing their “au pair”‘s.

    My world was more traditional, SICK (single income, couple kids). My wife gave up her job to stay at home to raise our children. We were right at the “median income” of $47K at that time.

    We are now at the age where the DINKS are retiring and I am looking at 20 more years in the workforce (workforce permitting). The sacrifice is more than just the mother’s.

    For the life of me, I can not see a reason why anyone with a traditional “family” would support the Democratic position.

    I qualify “family”, because simply procreating does not make for a “family”.

    The Democrat’s propensity to fund select “families” follows the function of Lebenborn of Germany in the 1930′s. It produced offspring that was loyal to the party.

  • WmCraig

    By the 1950′s segregation, and Jim Crow laws were designed to divide and control the population. For those not old enough to remember the south in the late fifties and early 60′s let me explain that White, does not include a lot of people who aren’t black.

    It also had a powerful influence on white people. The problem with Jim crow laws isn’t just what it did to black people in terms of restrictions, but also in how it was used to control everyone, including white people. Get on the wrong side of anyone and rumors would about “sympathizing” would cost you your job, your neighbors would shun you, your church doors would lock to you, the banks would call your loans, your credit rating would vanish, your life could be made miserable.

    It is this aspect of the power the Democrats wielded that history revisionists want to hide by making it ONLY about race. First and foremost it was about a ruling elite that exercised oppressive power. That “rumor mill” moved in to the white house with President Obama. He has shown you the power of the Democrats to attack “groups” and to force members to tighten ranks for self preservation. Strays get picked off by predators in power.

    The purpose isn’t to only defeat “strays” but to put the fear of government power into the “group”. The group is silenced and/or influenced to go along when the natural tendency is to rebel. A prime example is union construction, union military industrial workers, union petroleum workers, and union coal miners, transport and power generation workers.Why would all these people support government policies intended to destroy their jobs? Fear of straying to far and being the victim of democrat attacks.

    This is pure Jim Crow power, brought to you again by the Democrats. When will America learn.

  • indieinvirginnie

    To contact singer Gretchen Wilson’s people and get her cut “Full Time Job” in a mash up with Ms Rosen’ s latest foot sandwich. It would be great — the lyrics are tailor made, and Ms Wilson is no hedge fund manager’s wife (and is at least a suspected Republican).

    As a bonus, you get the inside joke of a recording artist taking a jab at Rosen, who did less than zero for her constituency during her time at RIAA.

  • spinoneone

    the issue is Rosen’s snot nosed attitude toward motherhood when the object of Rosen’s scorn has borne five children and raised them into good people. I did not say that adoption was bad, nor do I think it is. In the case of Rosen, however, and her female partner, it may have been her only option. I understand full well that some couples cannot conceive and that adoption is their option. Excellent. Kids that otherwise might have just been foster kids in the system get a good home, loving parents, and a good upbringing.

    On the other hand, your comment about the cost merely bears out my contention. Rosen may not have as much money as the Romneys do, but she obviously is not poor by any reasonable measure. Rosen qualifies as a libtard.

    You, proudmarinemom, do not. Hats off to you.

  • anjinconsulting

    Oohrah!

    We need to focus on the character of Rosen’s remarks and the root of her belief, vis: being a full-time parent and a co-equal partner in a loving, domestic relationship is some kind of trivial effort that denigrates a woman’s worth.

    Rosen’s deployment of one of the foundational lies that liberalism is built on has personified that lie and we should make all the hay that we can with this opportunity.

  • renny

    The o’s are mutli-millionaires, mooch’s hospital job was created because her husband was a pol (and vanished after she left), and they live like kings–on our free vacation time.

    Romney’s father was a gov., Romney was a gov., and like the Kennedys, who are always held up as the masters of “noblesse oblige,” the Romneys are following in a VERY American tradition of using family wealth for the betterment of public service.

    Romney would look and sound more presidential in boxer shorts with hearts on them than the o on any given day of the week.

  • anjinconsulting

    The last thing we should do is give our opponents any breathing room. Just like in a fight, the need to keep the opponent off balance and on the defensive is paramount to success.

    Between Rosens & Wasserman’s remarks on this topic, and Captain Zero’s remarks on the Martin shooting in conjunction with Holder’s collusion with race baiting poverty pimps like Sharpton, Romney has been given a “marvelous” opportunity to contrast the hypocrisy of the liberals and their collusive minions in the SCUM with conservative belief and policy.

    If we simply called a spade a spade with polite but straightforward fact, we would be a long way ahead.

  • cfoy65

    It is certainly interesting to see that the feminists have now joined the “war on women”. Their total disdain for us “stay at home moms” has everything to do with our reliance on men for economic security. In their minds, reliance on a man for anything is akin to a fatal disease. It is interesting, however, that reliance on Obama and the Government is OK, though. Hmmm…I’m wondering if they will now start bashing all the “welfare” moms for never having worked a day in their life….I’m thinking probably not! Oops..I forgot the liberals don’t want you to have any money either. I guess the only way for a woman to be truly happy in “liberal land” is to be totally self reliant or totally dependent on the government. What I do wonder, though, is if it is OK in feminist circles for a “partner” to be reliant on another “partner” for economic security. Maybe someone could shed some light on that.

  • Next93

    N/T

  • earlgrey

    http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/04/12/hilary-rosen-feud-give-ann-romney-a-break.html

  • tnfriendofcoal101368

    That no one is talking about: “?Let?s declare peace in this phony war and go back to focus on the substance.?

    That is the one Reince Priebus ought to be screaming i.e. this “War on Women” is a phony war that David Axelrod dreamed up in order not to have to talk about anything of substance and Rosen admitted to it.
    Ferenghi Rule of Acqusition #60 – Keep you lies consistent.
    That was Rosen’s big mistake as far as the Obama administration was concerned, she forgot which lie she was supposed to tell.

  • rabun1016

    I am with Romney this time around, but agree that the pretense of him wearing jeans is superficial. He needs to put on a suit, and look like a guy who is taking risks and creating jobs. The Romney campaign also seems inept at taking the natural advantage of situations. Ann Romney has MS, just like someone in my family. Her story is remarkable, as the disease will become more debilitating. Her challenges far exceed those of Big Michelle. I shake my head at what an awful campaign he has run. Truly, business guys know markets and business motivations but know little about street level politics so totally trust advisers and data.

  • Jack_Savage

    Good catch. This is why we shouldn’t move past her comments. The more they defend, the bigger hole they dig. The next time Erick meets Hilary, he should at least make her admit the GOP “war on women” is phony.

  • hungarianfalcon

    My wife had the career thing going before we finally decided to have kids (We were married for ~4-5 years w/o kids while I was in grad. school). She made it into the first tier of VPs for her bank as a commercial lender (banks have a lot of VP tiers) at about as young an age as anyone ever did in her organization.

    She would have gladly stayed in that role but with kids bringing stuff back from daycare compounding my wife’s own health issues (she has chronic sinus issues), our quality of life just wasn’t there (my son was off of antibiotics for no more than a week straight starting with our trip to the emergency room where I saw the kickoff of the super bowl in 2004 until the end of July that year). My wife was essentially in the same boat. At that point “we” decided to bag the career thing and go full time stay at home.

    However, the main point is that especially for these women with real college degrees like my wife, the decision to stay at home is a real difficult one. They’re torn between “wasting” their degree and being a good mom. I don’t know a single one that did it because they thought it was easy.

    It really comes down to values and what you value more. That doesn’t mean one’s bad or worse than the other. We all make life choices and as Ann Romney indicated, there’s nothing wrong with being a full-time career mom and having kids provided it works for you and those that you are responsible for. There’s also equally nothing wrong with not doing that.

    My personal opinion is that the subset of those that choose the career path AND look down upon the others (e.g. Ms. Rosen) are very self oriented (and that’s fine) but also very insecure, immature in a certain way, and driven by ego (nothing wrong with that, either). Subconsciously, they feel guilty because these other women are fully dedicating themselves to their kids but they themselves are not (in the same way but in they are in terms of providing financially). And we know what guilt does to women…. At least many of them.

    Building on the last paragraph, for these career women that choose to stay at home, it truly is a selfless act. It’s no secret that their professional skills in many instances atrophy because they spend their days predominantly interacting with humans below the age of 18 (and their parents). That doesn’t mean that they’re not smart, but that their intellect is directed at something different than their former career. More than a couple guys I know adamantly (and crassly) state that when their spouse, sister, etc. became a mom and the umbilical cord was cut, it cut the oxygen to their brain, too, because they are trying to communicate and function in a way that gets thru to little kids. In that regard it truly does impact their career and any future aspirations they may have (say once the last child is in Kindergarten) of getting back in the game.

    I also haven’t touched on the physical aspect of carrying a child (e.g. there’s a reason we only have 2 kids and not more). Many women have physical issues that don’t simply go away after a pregnancy. For any of these “Rosens” that haven’t actually carried a child to be commenting on stay at home moms who have carried their own children puts them at a level pretty close to your garden variety male chauvinist, IMO.

    Erick’s also right about the finances. I’m nothing more than a paycheck and a co-signer for all things financial in our house. I should be thankful I’m allowed to have an ATM card (grin).

    HF

  • mwmom

    I see this entire brouhaha as related to the left’s views on homeschooling. It’s really all about control. It drives them crazy that families would want to control the education their children receive and limit the propaganda taught at many public schools.

    If there were no SAHPs, all children would be in daycare and school, mostly institutional rather than in-home. There have been many outcries for “free” daycare for children under school age. While this may sound great initially, “free childcare!” it’s really all about taking control away from the families and parents and replacing it with some sort of outside institution. No thank you.

    Not that daycare is bad. It’s necessary fo many families, but it should be our choice. If we lose the SAHP, we lose choices.

    SAHPs are also the lifeblood of many PTOs, they are room parents, field trip chaperones, etc. At my children’s public school they give much needed extra help to the teachers and directly impact the education my kids receive. I am thankful for those parents who step in to help in school while I’m at work. If they disappear it leaves the schools in total control.

    The libs I know actually think this would be great, because they think most people are dumb and need the government to step in and tell them what to do. I’m not kidding. They think this. It’s hugely elitist and views people in groups, not as individuals. We have got to get the current administration out of the White House and out of our lives!

  • gtbw

    Erick the next time you are live on cnn and the liberals are ragging on the Romneys or stay at home moms and you don’t know what to say use George Costanza line” the jerk store called and they running out you”

  • TexasTami

    …and she gets demonized for it? Where is the value in drawing a paycheck while someone else instills THEIR values and mores and moral standards (or lack thereof) on your kids? And is that working, pray? Is our society better off for it? Are our kids better off for it? There is NOT ONE person I’ve talked to who ever said, “Yeah, man, I loved it that my mom was never there for me, that she worked and drew that paycheck and that was so much more important than staying at home with me.”

    Obama mentioned Michelle didn’t have the “luxury” of staying at home, while he made $169,000 as a senator. She made $316,000 outside the home, but let me get this straight: they couldn’t make it on $169,000 and she was “forced” to get out of the home??? They couldn’t cut their budget enough to live off of the luxurious amount of $169,000??? When we made the decision for me to stay home AND RAISE OUR OWN KIDS, my husband made $30,000, and we made it. We made it, by golly, because we cut, cut, cut, and we lived on a budget, and we lived in a smaller house and drove used cars and watched every penny, so I could stay home and raise my own kids.

    Let’s get real, folks. Our kids count. Making the sacrifice for one parent to stay home and raise our kids means something. Instead of demonizing women who choose to do this, we should be giving them a medal. And our “thanks for your service, ma’am”.

  • anthonyx

    like a “laser beam,” it’d help if people like the guy who wrote this piece didn’t give the Rosens of the world a pass just because she’s a work colleague and/or it was an attack on the Romneys, and Erik E never heard an attack on the Romneys he didn’t love. I find this thread an interesting exercise in damage control, as EE tries to recover some of the legitimacy he’s been losing.

  • funwithknives

    Just yesterday {and for the last few days} I have been having an exceedingly distasteful “Discus’ chat with a certain San Francico resident. (Beitbart B G )
    This person continually, with no knowlege of me, personally belittled what he/she allegedly ‘knew’ about me and those I associate closely with.
    He/She basically used every vein and eye -popping epiphet he/she could scare up and without exception I was always classed into their? pre-supposed groups of personally-disdained Americans.
    Even when I offered explanations to factually counter his diatribes , nothing was going to break his bubble. Being a War History book collector [and avid reader} , I was reminded of differing propaganda campaigns in various conflicts. The sameness was striking.

    This has brought up something I aim to maximize in the future. I am, from here on, going to make it personal by using what the speaker gives me as ‘ammunition’, to refute falseness as noted by yours truly. Blue/Liberal/Progressive stereotyping, is at a minimum. Call out the individual’s false premises ,back it up, and keep it that way as much as possible.

    This S F resident made me realize by example and word, just how ridiculous you can make yourself act and look.
    Should I look him/her up and Say Thanks?

  • http://www.erickerickson.org Erick Erickson

    Stop being an outrage pimp.

    Her comment was poorly phrased, but either way I disagree with it.

    It undermines the Democrats’ War on Women rhetoric, but more importantly, why should I be outraged at liberals saying what they truly believe? I want them to do that. That’s how we win.

  • funwithknives

    are so Screamingly True, I almost jumped into the screen.

    Using this simile is gonna get me in Big Trouble , you know.
    Only conservatives can “Be Nazis”, as we are all solemnly instructed, so very often.

    I CAN USE this without attribution,… right?

  • annie54

    A more applicable title for the S@H Mom; however, is Domestic Engineer.

  • funwithknives

    How lonely is it in Ann Arbor,”…for the likes of you”, anyway?

    In Farmington, myself.

  • Jack_Savage

    The most intense times in my life are when my wife goes away to a conference or girls’ vacation and I am in charge of finances,groceries, meals, carpool and extracurricular activities. Heaven help me if there is a birthday or illness in there somewhere. I sleep like a baby when she gets back.

    Domestic engineer indeed. I have often said that if we wanted thirty Army divisions moved halfway across the world, call five Moms and they would have it done in two days.

  • annie54

    of the “Perfect Attendance Award” at the end of the year. I made a study of that while a SAH mom.

    Their children are on as rigid of a schedule as are they. Get up, shower, eat, dress, lunch money, back pack, leave. Hurry. ‘Can’t be late. There’s little time to question or sense the well-being of the child, so they go to school germs and all.

  • funwithknives

    or simply to marginalize and ridicule SAH mothers, with drive-by sound bites, was really bad form. A person with Rosen’s supposed smarts never would have said this ,On Their Own.
    She got retained,for $120 k by a Democratic Machine to create controversy, and in this, She has succeeded. The $ for a hit, and a reaaly weak Mea-Culpa.. Sacrifice Fly Ball.

    But now she’s out and personal, and If she is paid additionally by CNN, they own this. So what is next?

    “Stay Tuned for the Next Chapter in the continuing saga of : ‘Hillary Rosen, Who Cares??’ “

  • chuckie

    …until having two teenage boys in the household raised our car insurance through the roof, and i had to get a “real” job….

    ….then i got hit on the head by a box at work, and a permanent disabling neck injury….but too bad…

    …no work history, no disability payments…”thanks for your service” indeed…. :)

  • mspector

    If personal revelation on this issue matters I was what became known as a “latchkey kid” as I grew up in the 1950s. Both my parents worked but as it happened my mother’s income (along with the Kaiser health insurance she got through her job) were far more important to our family than was my father’s (running a small bookstore).

    As it happens, my life has brought me into interaction with innumerably more women than men. Part of this I am sure has to do with the fact that my two principal influences growing up were my mother and grandmother. I now teach, and most of my students are women — most young, most with children or “on the way”, some married and some not. I have known the working mother, the stay-at-home mother, and every hybrid I can imagine. My ex-wife and I adopted a boy and I became the semi-stay-at-home dad, giving up about 1/3 of my law practice so I could be there for him while my wife kept her full-time job. I think I know the territory.

    All that said, this is not some silly kerfuffle and we should not allow the left to run and hide from it. It is at the heart of the “culture war” (I’m so tired of the “war” metaphor, so someone please provide a better one), and it is a “war” we are positioned to do well in.

    The women — and men — we are talking about and to are not among the pampered 1%; they are people who face daily challenges to make their lives work and do well by their children. These folks are more aware than anyone else of the economic pressures facing families and the daily consequences of Obamanomics. We respect them (or certainly should); the left does not. We can talk to them.

    And as I have posted elsewhere, I think when you scratch the surface and look at the dynamics in almost all families, much less the families with a stay-at-home mother, you will find that the women by and large tend to be more conservative than the men. The women steward the family: pay the bills, buy the clothes, talk to the teachers. Conservative values do not come from the mountaintop, they come from the realities of life. These people are our natural audience — they are us — and we need only to talk to them.

    I’m unhappy that we have Romney as the candidate though I must thank Ann Romney for what she has done so far. All that said, I think that this little kerfuffle gives us a look at what this campaign is going to be like, and I think it is going to be good.

  • cbartlett

    Heard this morning the Team Romney was thinking about a new bumper sticker: ** MOMS drive the economy**

    I don’t care if you work in the home or outside the home – it’s a true statement!

  • cbartlett

    “Wasting the degree” reminds me of a conversation I had with my mother when I was a new mom. I made some comment in front of her about “wasting my degree” at home with a 2-year-old and a newborn at the time and she thoroughly chastised me. She said she worried all her life how she would support 4 kids if something happened to my dad (and his income) because she dropped out of college after only one semester and had virtually no work experience. She told me that she was very proud of the fact that “my three girls” (as well as the only boy) all had degrees to fall back on if they ever needed to. I will say that all three of us (as well as my brother’s wife) stayed home while our children were young (11 of them in total) and all of us are most definitely using our degrees again in our “second careers”. Yeah – I’m not ever going to be the Vice President or CEO because I have a 12-year gap in the resume’ but so what? I’m productive and happy and attempting to get something in savings because heaven knows, there sure won’t be any Social Security or Medicare left when we get there!