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TEN: How Would You Rate Your Life?

A Book Review and A Recommendation.

[Full disclosure: Until the Holidays, it has been years since having sworn never to step into a church again. However, as Life's Rich Pageant has a way of throwing curves, over the Holidays, I found myself doing the unthinkable and stepped into church for the first time in a long, long time.  Having family members who have attended this church for years, I had only heard about it. However, seeing is believing (so to speak). Once inside The Life Christian Church (more on the church in a moment), I found a warm, welcoming and enjoyable environment and were it not for that visit (and one or two since), you would not have the chance to know about this book.] 

Over the next several paragraphs, I’d like to share a little about TEN: How Would You Rate Your Life?, it’s author, Pastor Terry Smith, his church, and, as importantly, its missions.

The Book — First and foremost, Pastor Terry’s recently-published book is not a “self-help” book, it is more a self-fulfillment book.  TEN: How Would You Rate Your Life? is a book about Life for oneself, as well as for others.

Yes, it is Christ-centered. However, even the more secular among us will appreciate it.

“I couldn’t agree less with the idea that most of our problems result from wanting too much. I think we should want more. Not more stuff, but more life,” says Pastor Smith. “I believe a more fulfilling life—a life in all its fullness—is the future that we are created to have. I also believe we have the ability to tap into this potential and create that more and better life for ourselves and others.”

What is unique about Smith’s book is that it is also a book about leadership that speaks equally to the heart of the day laborer, the pro-football player (see below) as well as the highest executive.

There is the story of Emmanuel Anim-Sackey, a church member and native of Ghana who, knowing the prosperity he enjoys here in the U.S., turned his pilgrimages to his home country (where he would take whatever he could carry home to distribute among the impoverished) into a full-fledged community mission. He Acted.

Then, there are the anecdotal stories of the more “famous people”—from Abraham Lincoln to Carly Fiorina.

“Great leaders multiply inspiration and influence by turning their followers into leaders,” writes Smith.

“If we are to live the best possible life, then we must be obligated to more than just ourselves. We must be obligated to the countless people we have direct or indirect, immediate or future influence over. Leadership is about accepting responsibility for others. A moral future is an inclusive one.”

“I believe everyone is a leader in some capacity….While most people may not be born with natural leadership skills, it is a skill that can be learned and developed. It can be studied.”

Even though retired-GE CEO Jack Welch tweeted positively about TEN last week, during this time of political and class warfare, it is the story of Smith’s church that is truly inspiring.

The Church — Upon visiting The Life Christian Church, you would think you were entering a non-descript storefront that is located along a fairly busy intersection in West Orange, New Jersey. As the crow flies, West Orange is 12 miles outside of New York City and a stone’s throw from Newark.

TLCC is actually located in a renovated bowling alley and, although a new church is under construction several miles away (they’ve outgrown the bowling alley), its current location seems to be what, in part, makes TLCC “successful.” It is both humble, as well as high tech, and the music..the music is unbelievably well done.

TLCC’s congregation is truly the epitome of a melting pot—where, if ever there were a vision of racial and cultural harmony in America, it would be found inside this church located in its West Orange location. As one who is rather jaundiced, if ever there were a little church that could, this one does…and then some.

There are some 50 nationalities represented by the members of the church and the income levels range from wealthy CEOs and pro-football players (several NY Giants attend) to the homeless.

As only a visitor, it seems it is the “harmony” of the pastor, his vision, the congregation and its humble location that allows it to do what is does outside of West Orange, New Jersey.

The Missions — Through its Life Teams, TLCC spreads out around the world (and the U.S.), sending groups of its youth (and adults) to help build schools, orphanages, as well as to rebuild after disasters [see pics below]. The church has sent teams to Mississippi and Haiti (to help rebuild after hurricanes), as well as to Mexico, Trinadad, Honduras and, of course, Ghana.

This year, TLCC is returning to Ghana, which brings us back to TEN: How Would You Rate Your Life?

At 10 am [EST], for every book bought through Amazon, $1 will go directly to TLCC’s mission trip. So, should you wish to help enrich your own life, as well as others, 10 am would be a good time to buy it by going here.

Thanks, Pastor Smith, for letting us visit your church over the Holidays. It was truly a welcome respite in an otherwise tumultuous time.

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“I bring reason to your ears, and, in language as plain as ABC, hold up truth to your eyes.” Thomas Paine, December 23, 1776

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  • http://pocketchangeproductions.net/ anotherindyfilmguy

    After that’s done with though the rating part is out of my control…

  • tailfins1959

    It’s a cultural thing. After experiencing Christianity in the South, I was pretty close to how you feel. However homeless mission style churches and heavily immigrant churches don’t have nearly as much hypocrisy. God doesn’t vary, but people do. Jesus built his ministry from people that society at large had discarded. That principle still works today. I’m still a conservative Baptist, however if some toothless Southerner shows up as a guest speaker, I just skip that Sunday.

    • Jack_Savage

      I guess when some self-important, overweight, puffed up, bling-laden, liberal Yankee shows up at our church with his wife up front and mistress in the back, I am at liberty to describe him as such and skip that Sunday as well. They’re all like that, by the way. Every one of them, because I went to church in Buffalo once and saw one.

      I am sure your knowledge of Christianity in the South is true in your admittedly limited experience, but is profoundly lacking in every other way. Maybe you could travel to Montreat and talk to Billy Graham about it – not sure about his teeth, though.

      • tailfins1959

        As long as you’re making almost six figures and paying off the new carpet in the sanctuary, you’re great in the South. When your kids start showing up in clothes that don’t fit and are at risk for homelessness, all of a sudden you’re chopped liver. They get confused when the currency says “In God We Trust” because they think THAT is their God. If you’re about to be homeless, make a bee-line for the Northeast, especially if you have a good education. Hopefully some lurker will read this and not make the same mistake I did thinking you can count on refuge in “God’s country” aka the “Bible belt”

        • Jack_Savage

          Exactly where was the “there for ten years”? One church? Many churches? Churches all across the South? I would assume churches all across the South, since you speak with such authority on the subject.

          Your post is such a gross mis-characterization – almost a caricature – that I wonder less about your church and more about you. It sounds like you fell on hard times and didn’t get what you thought you deserved from your church / many churches / churches all across the South – whatever the case was.

          What was it you thought you deserved that they did not give you? Money? A home? A job? Clothes? Did you speak to the pastor, or board, or were you disappointed that they didn’t read your mind and send what you needed to your door?

          I have been here for fifty years. I have attended churches all across the South. In not one case – not one – when someone needed help were they refused. Not one. Churches have been going astray ever since Paul was making his missionary journeys, so certainly that is possible in your case, but what you are ascribing to “churches in the South” is simply and demonstrably false.

          • tailfins1959

            I was mostly looking for homeless avoidance counseling. This was in Florida and Tennessee. The indifference was astounding. After eight months, I threw up my hands and moved to Massachusetts. Four months after that, I had professionally recovered 120% in both salary and position. Fortunately during that four months it was not necessary to be distracted by survival. MA offered assistance and a hotel room for those four months. I made some contacts in Cambridge, MA that was really concerned about my plight, called in favors and had me a job offer in very short order. Weighing full-fledged socialists (not liberals) on one hand and Southern KJV-onlies on the other isn’t even a close comparison. While it’s obvious that the left’s math doesn’t add up, I do give them credit in a non-political capacity.

          • Jack_Savage

            I can tell you that is was likely not indifference, but a lack of skill in that particular specialty. If someone came to our church looking for homeless avoidance counseling, we would refer them to the proper people but would not really be able to help in-house. In the South we generally rely on family, then close friends, then churches, in that order.

            It sounds like you were able to connect with government authorities in MA who helped, and not a church. Is that true? If so, you can hardly compare the resources and skills of what is basically a welfare state to a small church in the South. It also sounds like your skill set was more marketable in a different place.

            What you wanted was to be taken care of until you were able to find a job at your previous employment level and salary. No single church is going to be able to do that, although we partner with people that can. Again, to compare what the state of Massachusetts can provide with a small church in FL or TN is not fair to say the very least.

            Throwing up your hands and moving because a church couldn’t provide what you felt entitled to, then bitterly blaming all churches in the South should give you reason for reflection on the situation. Perhaps they behaved poorly, but there is a chance you did as well by having unreasonable expectations of a place that is first and foremost a House of Worship and not a social services center.

          • tailfins1959

            I’m a namin’ names! http://www.frbc.com/ They specifically hold themselves up as that kind of place. They are an incredibly judgmental bunch.

          • Melody Warbington (rwm52)

            However, over the years, I have been a member at various churches of Christ in Tennessee, Georgia and Alabama, not to mention the many that I have visited or known people who were members. I could personally tell you stories about those who were homeless, addicted, jobless, male, female, black, white, Hispanic – just people across the board who needed help and received it from these churches. Currently, in my home congregation, I know of several situations where members opened their homes to those who needed a place to stay while getting back on their feet or to those in the area due to medical needs. There is one family who actually bought a house that they provide to those in need. We’ve had several coat drives over the last few year open to anyone in the area, and I know for a fact that many members donated new coats rather than cast-offs. We are not a “rich” congregation, however, a neighboring church that does have a wealthier membership bought a set of condos that they provide to those in need. I’m surely not the only one who could provide you with more evidence of the very real Christianity on display throughout the South (the statistics of charitable giving being higher in the South come to mind as well as the outpouring of help from the churches after the tornadoes ripped through Alabama last spring), but it appears you have your mind made up.

            As for your current situation, I’m glad you have found help, but it’s hardly fair to indict all Christians and churches in the South based on a few bad apples. As for your insult, I’ve had a few family members who may not have all their teeth, but they’re salt of the earth, give you the shirt off their back kind of people that I wouldn’t trade for anyone.

          • Jack_Savage

            It doesn’t look like they had any sort of ministry set up to help in the way you wanted, which happens sometimes. I am glad you found the help you wanted and feel sure that if FRBC had the resources of the State of Massachusetts you very likely would have found what you needed there.

            When you comment on toothless, judgmental Southerners, maybe you could confine it to the churches where you have experience and leave the ones where I have experience out of it.

  • Tbone

    The calf is going to be bummed.

    • http://www.laborunionreport.com LaborUnionReport

      …a bigger deal than you could ever imagine and it has nothing to do with gold or calves.

      • CincoSolas_del_Bronx

        about calves from opposite ends of the book. One’s the kind you want to be running away from as fast as you can, the other, running toward …

        • Tbone

          LUR to get here. LOL

  • lineholder

    I had an appointment earlier this morning, so I may have missed out on the 10 am deal at Amazon, but I’ll check out the book all the same. From what little you’ve quoted, it sounds like something that I could support and believe in.

    I’ve been facing something of a predicament pertaining to church. Some of it has to do with the fact that I don’t have a vehicle of my own at the present time, and this simply limits me to the three churches within walking distance. I’ve visited each of them, more than once. The people are basically very friendly, but it’s the type of message that’s presented that I just can’t accept.

    They each present a rosy, idealistic image of what being a Christian is all about, and rely more on waves of emotion to support their beliefs in everyday life. Emotion can and does serve a positive purpose in our lives, but it can change as quickly as the wind blows and doesn’t always provide a solid sense of substance…being grounded to the truth and facing reality for what it is. Plus, there’s very little that I heard about the tougher side of being Christian…facing temptations day in and day out, being able to succeed in resisting those temptations, speaking honestly about such things, encouraging each other to do so, etc.

    But I do believe that God made us in such a way that we have a deep scope of potential. We each have our part to play in this world we live in, and the choice is our own to make as to whether it will be for good or for evil. The responsibility is our own, as is the accountability for those choices. And we do have the potential to be leaders, even in the simple things we face day to day, simply by doing what is right and what is of good, and standing steadfast in our efforts, come what may come.

    Thanks for the recommendation, and best of success to you in where things go for here, LUR.

    • BA Cyclone

      You can worship alone — and that’s encouraged — but there is also great value in finding a group of friends to worship and serve with, as well. It is great to get that edifying charge every week.

      There is one out there for you!

    • BA Cyclone

      You can worship alone — and that’s encouraged — but there is also great value in finding a group of friends to worship and serve with, as well. It is great to get that edifying charge every week.

      There is one out there for you!

  • westcoastpatriette

    Being very disillusioned with traditional churches and having walked away more than once, but I have not given up on God himself and have found that many times, He is more active outside the church than He is on the inside of them.

    And I know He understands how we feel. There were times during Jesus time here, that nearly everyone walked away from Him, too. And he did most of his work outside the established church (Judaism) as they could not see who he was or accept what he was doing.

    So, there is hope for all of us — especially leader types. And while we as people all fail him in many ways, God never changes not does his love for us abate –whether we leave the organized church or not.

    Enough. Thanks for sharing and I hope you continue to be drawn to Life Christian Church and find a place to feel at home.