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Washington Post’s Lisa Miller: Romney and Santorum Families Hurt Women

Funny how tolerant people always stand ready to tell everyone else what to do

In his homily of January 22, Philadelphia Archbishop Charles Chaput said the following:

As the historian Gertrude Himmelfarb observed more than a decade ago, “What was once stigmatized as deviant behavior is now tolerated and even sanctioned; what was once regarded as abnormal has been normalized.” But even more importantly, she added, “As deviancy is normalized, so what was once normal becomes deviant. The kind of family that has been regarded for centuries as natural and moral – the ‘bourgeois’ family as it is invidiously called – is now seen as pathological” and exclusionary, concealing the worst forms of psychic and physical oppression.

My point is this: Evil talks about tolerance only when it’s weak. When it gains the upper hand, its vanity always requires the destruction of the good and the innocent, because the example of good and innocent lives is an ongoing witness against it. So it always has been. So it always will be. And America has no special immunity to becoming an enemy of its own founding beliefs about human freedom, human dignity, the limited power of the state, and the sovereignty of God.

If you ever had any doubts about the truth of this statement you need look no farther than today’s Washington Post where a creature called Lisa Miller writing in the Washington Post’s “On Faith” feature titled Romney and Santorum and Archaic Ideas of Fertility comes to the conclusion that the large families of Mitt Romney and Rick Santorum show that they want to keep women barefoot and pregnant:

There’s nothing wrong with big families, of course. But the smug fecundity of the Republican field this primary season has me worried. Their family photos, with members of their respective broods spilling out to the margins, seem to convey a subliminal message that goes far beyond a father’s pride in being able to field his own basketball team. What the Republican front-runners seem to be saying is this: We are like the biblical patriarchs. As conservative religious believers, we take seriously the biblical injunction to be fruitful and multiply.

Especially worrisome is the inevitable corollary to that belief: Women should put their natural fertility first — before their brains, before their ability to earn a living, before their independence — because that’s what God wants.

Smug fecundity…biblical patriarchs…inevitable corollary. The only thing missing are the scare quotes.

Whether or not one has children is obviously a very personal decision. Some, like Miller, believe, as did Margaret Sanger in the 1930s and Planned Parenthood today, that too many of the wrong type of people are having too many babies.

If Miller wants to find smugness she need travel no farther than the nearest mirror.

Through our groveling at the altar of the god Tolerance for 50 years we have allowed the near destruction of the nuclear family in America. Normal is killing children in utero. Normal is legalized euthanasia. Normal is creating embryos for spare parts. Normal is “twin reduction.” Normal is sending your parents off to a nursing home on Medicaid. Not satisfied with those successes, Miller and her God are now attacking people who have the temerity to have the number of children they wish to have.

What she seems to miss is that, contrary to what she is doing, no one is telling her that her decision to have a child makes her a leech on society because this decreases the tax base during her dotage and will inevitably result in her becoming a ward of the state when she is unable to care for herself.

No one is telling her that her failure to have at least 2.1 children means that Social Security and Medicare become more endangered.

No one would tell her that because it isn’t our business and, quite honestly, getting Miller’s residual DNA out of the gene pool sooner rather than later is a manifestly good thing.

She, on the other hand, is telling everyone else how to live and, peculiarly for a feature called “On Faith”, does so for the most banal of materialistic reasons. Reasons that do not bare any relationship to scientific reality.

Small family size does not provide an indicator of either health or quality of education. There are many, many other factors that go into that equation. Being an only child, in boys, has been associated with violent crminality.

Indeed, one could make a very strong case for saying that large families would create the tax base that, in the Worker’s Paradise dreamed of at the Washington Post, would allow top quality health care and education for free.

While she extolls the benefits of her being able to work, she ignores the fact that extended stays in day care facilities while she pursues her dreams is probably turning her single kid into a sociopath.

The time children spend in day care is associated with negative effects in social development. More hours in day care during a child’s early years is associated with less social competence and cooperation, more problem behaviors, negative mood, aggression, and conflict. Negative effects of day care on social–emotional development persist throughout early childhood and adolescence. Day care is linked with poorer average outcomes when children spend more time in center care, enter day care at an earlier age, or are in lower-quality care.

We have enough of those already, thank you.

COMMENTS

  • feather

    Probably the question of greatest importance is whether we should, in this country, establish a theocracy or if we should carefully make sure that government is secular.

    • streiff

      and I’ve had enough ridiculous over the past two days. You’re done.

      • jdw4america

        That incessant droning was getting to me.

    • indieinvirginnie

      Sociolinguistics in America. What fun!

      Apparently, “theocracy” now means any governmental attitude that does not seek to wring the last vestiges of Judeo-Christian influence out of every dusty corner in which they can be found.

  • DerKrieger

    …point regarding Social Security earlier today on HA.

    I have four children who will be dragooned into not only paying my Social Security and Medicare benefits, should those programs continue to haunt us, but also the benefits of the childless.

    Do I have a better claim on those benefits since I am the one doing the hard work and bearing the cost of raising the next generation?

    Since there are no Social Security accounts and current benefits are pad from current taxes, that kinda makes the childless free riders.

    My children will be pressed into service for those too selfish to bother with having their own children.

    I’m making plans now to move to Chile and finish raising my two youngest in one of the most free economies in the Western hemisphere.

  • renl57

    Here it is, in the context of the controversy over Obama’s forcing Catholic institutions to provide birth control against their own consciences:

    “Women in their child bearing years spend way more than men ? 68 percent more ? in out of pocket health-care costs, in part because they can get pregnant. To hold the consciences of a few loud voices over the private needs of families, to push this problem back onto individuals in an economy where women are already carrying an enormous load, is not just unfair. It is unconscionable.”
    –Lisa Miller, 9 February 2012

    There you are, Ms. Miller believes that individual religious conscience should be sacrificed to the majority of the people. At least she is open and honest about it, unlike Sibelius and the congressional Dems.

    Here, social conservatives really need to remind liberals that the First Amendment doesn’t just protect THEM.

    The Left seems to believe that they have a monopoly on the guarantees in the Bill of Rights.

    And it’s about time we set them straight on that.

  • http://boldcolor.blogspot.com/ Paula

    Conservatives are outbreeding liberals:

    “Overall, conservative non-hispanic white women have 26% more children than liberal white women, a sizable difference. The very conservative have 45% more kids on average than the very liberal.”

    So of course they’re upset.

    • runner12

      One can only hope the trend continues.

      Ms. Miller is the poster child for the smug, eltist, know-it-all Leftist who has never met a real person in her entire life. She lives in an echo chamber in which her and her ilk look down on all of the “little people.”

      Listen, if the Santorums and the Romneys want a big family they are entitled to have one without judgment from a complete and utter stranger. I would actually love it if the Mrs. of each of those families tweeted a snarky reply to Ms. Miller.

      Women have earned the right to be respected whether they have big families or small ones or work outside the home or inside the home. Ms. Miller has revealed her prejudice towards women who do not run their lives according to her views.

    • http://teresainfortworth.wordpress.com/ Teresa in Fort Worth, TX

      And people were OUTRAGED that I might have more kids because I was looking to somehow “beat” them.

      Nope – I was just pointing out a very “Inconvenient Truth”…..

    • sbm1

      As someone born into a family of horsebreeders, and seeing how little time it takes to make major changes through generations, I am very hopeful for the long term prospects of social conservatives.

      The pundits and the intellectual elites, who so often choose not to have children…or sometimes put it as “not bringing children into “this world”" in their derisive manner…..ideas are getting one year older every year. They have a pretty good hold on the indoctrination in the public schools and universities, but nothing compared to the nuclear families that are firmly on the side of the conservatives.

      It is just important that we get the Hispanics into the republican party. The Rubio’s and Ted Cruz’s are shining examples of how the conservative message is at home in the Hispanic community.

      And if the African American community ever gets sick of the poverty that the democrat dependency programs are inflicting on them, and the utter destruction these programs did on the lot of the African American Nuclear family (Which arguably was a tighter knit and stronger family on average prior to FDR than the white families), then I have no idea who the dem’s will court as their base.

  • throwback59

    1. I wonder if Miller would say this if Obama had a large family? Could you imagine her using the “field his own basketball team” line?
    2. My all time favorite quote is from G.K. Chesteron: “Tolerance is the virtue of the man without conviction.”

  • barleycorn

    ?As deviancy is normalized, so what was once normal becomes deviant. ”

    This truth needs be repeated endlessly.

  • http://www.gmsplace.com/ civil truth

    …and explains the entire timeline of the left’s behavior regarding “tolerance” ending up as extermination of opponents.

  • brah

    Great post.

  • jiminga

    Men? We feminists don’t need no stinkin’ men!

    We feminists demand all get a degree in art history (or political science), buy a Volt, get an abortion (if you sleep with men), and just criticize everybody else’s lifestyle.

    A tool she is.

  • spinoneone

    Darwin always wins. But, remember the admonition to “teach the children well” in our homes, churches, and synagogues because we all know how the Leftists in elementary, HS, and colleges are trying to indoctrinate them.

    Miller ignores the fact that women today have the right and ability to choose. They can decide on marriage, a family, and personal satisfaction. They can decide on work, solitude, and depression. It is their choice.

  • http://teresainfortworth.wordpress.com/ Teresa in Fort Worth, TX

    ….15 years from now, they will be demanding that we pay for their fertility treatments and NICU care.

    Because when they finally decide that they WANT a baby (and aren’t able to have one because their time has already run out), then THAT is going to be a “right” as well…..

  • constitutionalconservative

    This really hits on all of the key points about the anti-human, anti-life nature of today’s left.

    But as far as I’m concerned, liberals can keep being childless and go extinct. The world will be a better place for it.

    As long as they don’t try to foist their poisonous ideology on the rest of us, their lack of fecundity can only be seen as an improvement for society.