The queen of American media, and current Democratic favorite — though she said she’s not running — Oprah Winfrey had some advice for young girls that sounds about as mystical and magical as it is ridiculous and shortsighted.
Appearing on Good Morning America to help promote her new movie “A Wrinkle in Time,” Oprah had some advice for young girls who were currently sitting in the audience watching her appearance.
“Every one of us has an internal guidance, a GPS, an intuition, a heart print, a heart song that speaks to us,” she said. “Your only job is to be able to listen and discern when it’s speaking versus your head and your personality speaking, and if you follow that you will be led to the highest good for you, always.”
“That’s why all the voices of the world mean nothing if your voice is in alignment with all the voices of the world. That’s true. No matter what you look like,” she concluded.
I don’t want to give the impression that being yourself is horrible advice. That’s actually super-great advice, but following that “internal voice” to the contradiction of everything else is not a smart way to navigate your daily doings.
What Oprah is essentially saying is that you should live by your feelings, even at the expense of logic. What this invites is ignorance based decisions that will lead you, and those around you into bad situations. For instance, you may feel like the cute guy in class means the world to you, and you love him very much. However, he may not be the story book prince Disney taught you to expect, and he may lead you down a dark path. You may love him — or more accurately, think you do — but your feelings are throwing blinders up to some very consequential facts.
The examples of why Oprah’s advice is bad can be endless. Perhaps you’re angry at a friend or family member for a perceived slight. Your feelings tell you you’ve been wronged, but perhaps there’s more to the story that you’re not seeing because you’ll see nothing but through the lens of your emotions. If you don’t allow your head to sift out the truth, then your relationships with these individuals deteriorates, and these problems never resolve themselves.
Your feelings are telling you to make that frivolous purchase while your head is wondering why you even need it in the first place. The former option might get you a pair of shoes you’ll wear maybe once or twice before you stop liking them. The latter will earn you relief that you still have the cash you would have otherwise lost for no good reason.
Your “inner voice” may tell you that you should adopt that cat, when if your head is given a voice you’d realize that cats are horrible creatures that even Satan thinks go too far sometimes.
The problem with Oprah’s advice is that she’s encouraging you to follow a guidance system that is subject to ridiculous whims, social pressures, and emotional influences. Boiled down, this isn’t necessarily you making these decisions, it’s the outside world manipulating your malleable emotions that you’ve decided to let control you instead of the other way around. Admittedly, this oftentimes can’t be helped, and you have to work around your environment. However, thinking logically will allow you to navigate rocky areas with the least amount of damage, and oftentimes with profit to show for it.
Sadly, this line of living by your feelings that Oprah endorses is typical of the Queen of talk. Oprah previously mentioned at the Golden Globes that speaking “your truth” is the most powerful weapon you have. Thing is, she’s horribly incorrect. As Ben Shapiro said in his article about it, there is the truth, and then there is your opinion. Thing is, he’s completely correct.
Oprah is promoting the idea of living in a self-created fairy tale where your surroundings, the people around you, and the social environment you live in is viewed through the lens of your feelings. This bubble that you create around you has to be very strong and resilient, as facts and truth are often sharp, and sometimes hurt very badly when they hit. Thus you reinforced your bubble of feelings, and reject inconvenient facts. You become a very self-absorbed, short-sighted, nightmarish individual.
My advice is to reject Oprah’s advice. Use your head just as much, if not more than you use your heart. Live in the world you’re in, not the one you internally create.